Ep 242: What Kind of Parent Do You Want to Be?

Rachel Rider, author of Who You Are Is How You Lead, talks about
getting in touch with how we want to show up for others. We
discuss the power of self-regulation and somatic experiencing to
help parents break free of ingrained patterns of interacting with
their teens.





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Full Show Notes


Parenting teenagers often feels like navigating through a maze
without a map. Whether it's constant reminders left unheeded,
feelings of being underappreciated, or simply a disconnect in
communication, many parents find themselves trapped in a cycle of
unproductive patterns with their teenagers. But what if the
secret to breaking these cycles begins with looking inward?


In today's episode of Talking to Teens, we are exploring the
power of self-awareness and transformation in parenting. Our
habits, responses, and interactions with our teenagers often stem
from deeper, unacknowledged patterns within us. But how do we
begin to recognize these patterns, and more importantly, how can
we change them?


We're joined by Rachel Rider, an executive coach and the creator
of the MetaWorks Method, a transformative process that promotes
radical ease, spaciousness, and meaningful change in leadership
and relationships. Rachel, also the author of "Who You Are Is How
You Lead," brings her extensive insight into how parents can
apply her methodology to foster a deeper connection with their
teenagers.


Understanding Your Internal Drivers


The journey to transformative parenting begins with understanding
your internal drivers—your deepest motivations for why you parent
the way you do. Rachel shares how identifying these drivers can
illuminate the patterns that govern our interactions with our
teens. By aligning our parenting approach with our core desires
and values, we can begin to interact with our teenagers in more
meaningful and fulfilling ways.


Recognizing and Disrupting Patterns


Patterns in parenting aren't just about what we do; they're
deeply tied to how we feel and react in certain situations.
Rachel discusses how becoming aware of our physical responses and
the thoughts that arise in challenging moments can reveal the
patterns we need to address. Disrupting these patterns isn't
about immediate change but about creating space to explore what
drives our reactions and how we can approach situations
differently.


Fostering Connection through Transformation


The final piece of transforming our parenting approach involves
nurturing new habits grounded in awareness and self-regulation.
Rachel provides practical advice for parents on how to introduce
change in their interactions with their teenagers, emphasizing
the importance of patience, self-compassion, and ongoing
reflection in the process.


In The Episode...


Our conversation with Rachel is packed with insights and
actionable advice. Some additional topics we cover include:


- The role of self-regulation in effective parenting
- How internal conflicts can influence our reactions to our
teenagers
- Practical steps for identifying and changing unhelpful
parenting patterns
- The importance of aligning your parenting approach with your
internal drivers
- Tips for fostering a deep and meaningful connection with your
teenager


Rachel's approach to transforming parenting dynamics offers a
fresh perspective on the challenges many parents face. By
focusing on internal drivers and patterns, we can create a more
fulfilling and connected family environment.


Don't miss this enlightening discussion on how self-awareness and
transformation can revolutionize the way you parent. Remember,
the journey to better parenting begins with you. Listen to the
episode and subscribe to Talking to Teens for more insights into
navigating the complex world of parenting teenagers.





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