Ep 249: The Keys to Instilling Confidence

Selena Rezvani, author of Quick Confidence, joins us to discuss
misperceptions around confidence and resilience. We learn the
counterintuitive role vulnerability and authenticity have in
raising confident teens.





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Full Show Notes


Raising teenagers in today’s world comes with its unique set of
challenges - among them, helping our teens navigate the tightrope
of self-confidence. Often, society pushes a surface-level idea of
confidence, emphasizing a façade of fearlessness and bravado.
However, true confidence—rooted in authenticity, vulnerability,
and self-expression—offers a more meaningful and resilient
foundation for our teens as they journey toward adulthood.


Today, we're thrilled to be joined by Selena Rezvani, a renowned
speaker, content creator, and commentator on leadership, and the
author of the insightful book, "WIC Confidence." Selena brings a
fresh perspective on building genuine confidence that celebrates
individuality and encourages connection.


First Impressions and Authenticity


We start with a conversation on the pressures teens face to
conform in new situations and how striving for positive first
impressions often leads to hiding their true selves. Selena
offers practical advice on breaking the ice and forming
connections without sacrificing authenticity. The discussion
includes actionable tips for parents on guiding their teens
through these social dynamics.


The Power of Outfits


Selena introduces us to the concept of a "power outfit" and how
attire can significantly influence confidence levels. We explore
how teens can identify clothing that makes them feel powerful and
authentic, crafting a personal style that boosts their
confidence.


Acts of Non-Compliance


In a world that often demands conformity, standing out can be
daunting for teens. Selena discusses the importance of acts of
non-compliance as a form of self-expression and authenticity.
This segment provides parents with strategies to support their
teens in embracing and showcasing their unique identities, even
when it challenges societal norms.


Handling Toxic Relationships


Navigating relationships is a critical part of adolescence.
Selena shares insights into recognizing and dealing with toxic
people, emphasizing the importance of setting boundaries and
learning to say no. We delve into practical ways parents can
equip their teens with the skills to protect their energy and
prioritize their well-being in all types of relationships.


Additional Topics Covered


The role of vulnerability in true confidence 

Strategies for teaching teens to stop over-apologizing 

Encouraging teens to view themselves as experts in their
passions 

The underestimated power of silence in communication 

Fostering a mindset that embraces failure as a growth
opportunity




Selena Rezvani’s expertise offers parents, teachers, and anyone
involved in a teenager’s life valuable insights on fostering an
environment where authentic confidence can flourish. Join us in
this enlightening conversation as we dive into practical tools
and mindset shifts that support our teens in becoming truly
confident individuals.


Listen to the episode and subscribe to Talking to Teens for more
insights into the art of parenting teenagers.





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