Ep 314: Breaking Bad Habits with Teenagers

Dr. Sophie Mort, author of "Unstuck," provides insights into
breaking negative habits, understanding teen decision-making, and
reshaping the narratives surrounding adolescence to better
support teens' growth and self-esteem.


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Full Show Notes





Navigating teenage years is often associated with challenging
habits and evolving identities—both for teens and their parents.
Adolescence brings about a series of complex transitions, raising
questions about how to best guide teenagers through this dynamic
chapter of their lives. While society often spells out dire
warnings about the teenage years, effective communication and
understanding can pave the way for smoother family dynamics and
healthier growth patterns.


Many of us grapple with forming or breaking habits—whether it's a
teen procrastinating on homework or a parent reacting emotionally
in family disagreements. Often, these habits tether us to
familiar yet unproductive routines. Dr. Sophie Mort sheds light
on how these patterns form and evolve, making it clear that a
blend of thought, tailored interventions, and empathy can
recalibrate our responses.


Dr. Sophie Mort, a clinical psychologist and the mental health
expert at Headspace, joins us this week. She's not only the
author of "A Manual for Being Human" but also the critically
acclaimed book "Unstuck," a guide about breaking free from
negative habits. Together, we dissect the nature of habits,
explore the age-old debate of 'good' versus 'bad' habits, and
delve into the societal and familial factors that magnetize our
actions. Sophie eloquently clarifies that a habit's alignment
with personal values and aspirations should define its nature—not
arbitrary societal judgments.


Understanding Teen Habits and Values


Sophie's approach encourages parents to redefine how they view
their teens’ habits, emphasizing alignment with personal values
over rigid categorizations of good or bad. The discussion evolves
into how to foster dialogue that prioritizes a teen's perspective
and desires for their future—tools that empower both personal
development and improved family relations.


Decision-Making Amidst Anxiety


The journey into adolescence amplifies the need for navigational
skills in decision-making. We explore when it's appropriate for
teens to rely on their gut and when they should delve into deeper
analysis. Sophie points out the nuanced relationship between
anxiety and gut instincts, highlighting how fostering mindfulness
can enhance informed decision-making.


The Drama Triangle: Reshaping Family Dynamics


Family conflicts often play out in predictable roles labeled by
the drama triangle: victim, persecutor, rescuer. These roles, if
left unchecked, forge cyclical conflicts that simmer over time.
Sophie shines a light on these recurring dynamics, providing
strategies to break free from these patterns and reposition
family members into more empowering roles.


Resisting Stereotype Pressures


Teen identity is frequently influenced by deeply ingrained
societal stereotypes, often resulting in pigeonholed
expectations. We explore stereotype embodiment and its impact on
teenage behaviors and self-image. Sophie’s insights into
fostering media literacy encourage teens to critically evaluate
the narratives they consume, aiding them in constructing
resilient self-concepts.


Confidence Vs. Self-Esteem


Lastly, distinguishing between confidence and self-esteem becomes
vital in nurturing overall well-being. Understanding these
differences helps parents support their teens in cultivating a
robust sense of self-worth that transcends external accolades and
societal pressures.


In the Episode…


Alongside these themes, Sophie and I delve into:


The benefits of mindful decision-making

Empowering teens to define their identity beyond stereotypes

Techniques to engage teens in constructive, future-oriented
dialogues

Methods for parents to model authentic imperfection



This episode is a journey into fostering environments where both
teens and parents grow beyond habitual ruts towards more
authentic lives. Tune in for an enriching discussion packed with
actionable insights, and subscribe to ensure you never miss out
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