195 Help, I’ve Struck Gold: Handling NRE in Two Relationships

New Relationship Energy (NRE) can make everything feel like a
shiny object. We get it, we love that feeling too! If you’re
practicing non-monogamy, you might actually find yourself feeling
NRE in multiple places. We made this episode in response to a
listener question—what do I do with all these feelings and
expectations? How do I prepare for when this chemical cocktail
starts to fade?


Even though it’s really exciting, this noisy emotional
environment requires thoughtful navigation to maintain balance
and authenticity. In this episode we’re helping you navigate
everything from the big picture emotional questions to the
practical, day-to-day questions like how to manage your schedule.


We’re breaking down:


— The neurochemical nature of NRE


— How NRE can lead us to project our desires onto new partners
rather than seeing them clearly


— The difference between NRE (new relationship energy) and
limerence, and why understanding this distinction matters


— Why NRE often causes us to mute our own boundaries and
bottom-line requirements


— The challenge of maintaining authenticity when we're caught up
in the newness of relationships


— How to recognize when you're abandoning yourself, your
established partners, or your friendships during intense NRE
periods


— The importance of explicit conversations about expectations
rather than just "going with the flow"


— Strategies for pacing yourself and managing your energy when
experiencing multiple NREs


— The transition from NRE to ERE (established relationship
energy) and how to nurture deeper connections


— Why comparing your relationships is less valuable than
examining how you show up differently in each one


Resources mentioned in this episode:


— Episode 153: Limerence vs. New Relationship Energy


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Music: Dance of Felt by ⁠Blue Dot Sessions