42 It's normal to be a messy human in messy relationships. Really, it is.

Have you ever done something and looked back and said "That's not
like me!" How does that happen? What do we do then? How can we
use this information to manage ourselves and our relationships
better? In this episode we talk about the Jungian concept of
complexes, and how they can come up and run the show for a while.


For reference, here are couple of powerful quotes from Jung on
his model of psychological complexes:


"Complexes interfere with the intentions of the will and disturb
the conscious performance; they produce disturbances of memory
and blockages in the flow of associations; they appear and
disappear according to their own laws; they can temporarily
obsess consciousness, or influence speech and action in an
unconscious way. In a word, complexes behave like independent
beings. from Jung, C. G., Psychological Factors in Human
Behaviour, Collected Works vol 8, par. 253.


"Complexes are focal or nodal points of psychic life which we
would not wish to do without; indeed, they should not be missing,
for otherwise psychic activity would come to a fatal
standstill."Jung, C.G., A Psychological Theory of Types,
Collected Works. vol. 6, par. 925.


You may also enjoy reading 


Complex, Archetype, Symbol by Jolande Jacobi


The Individuation Principle by Murray Stein





Watch the video version of this episode on YouTube


Get the book Project Relationship


Learn about Joli and how to work with her


If you want to stay up to date on Joli's jealousy work be sure to
join the Project Relationship mailing list