141 Being Polywise with Jessica Fern and David Cooley

Individuation, enmeshment, symbiosis, co-dependence,
individualism, interdependence… how on Earth can we navigate
through all these paradigms and bring balance to our
relationships??


Luckily, in this episode, we’re joined by Jessica Fern and David
Cooley, two all-star authors and practitioners in the
non-monogamy space. We get into the nuances of individuation, and
how to work towards differentiation in a way that is intentional
instead of reactive.


We talk about the mono-mind (that sneaky thing is always causing
trouble!!) and how it can be a barrier to individuation and
healthy conflict resolution in non-monogamous relationships.


Jessica and David’s new book Polywise is a
must-read. Learn more about it here!





Jessica Fern is a Psychotherapist, Certified Clinical Trauma
Professional, and author of the book Polysecure: Attachment,
Trauma, and NonMonomgamy and The Polysecure Workbook. In her
international private practice, Jessica works with individuals,
couples, and people in multiple-partner relationships who no
longer want to be limited by their reactive patterns, cultural
conditioning, insecure attachment styles, and past traumas,
helping them to embody new possibilities in life and love.


Learn more at www.JessicaFern.com


David Cooley is a professional Restorative Justice facilitator,
diversity and privilege awareness trainer, and bilingual cultural
broker. He is the creator of the Restorative Relationship
Conversations model, a process that transforms interpersonal
conflict into deeper connection, intimacy and repair. In his
private practice, David specializes in working with
non-monogamous and LGBTQ partnerships, incorporating a variety of
modalities including trauma-informed care, attachment theory,
somatic practices, narrative theory, and mindfulness-based
techniques.


To learn more about doing restorative partner work with David,
visit his website here: ⁠www.restorativerelationship.com





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