151 Justice Jealousy

Some kinds of jealousy can just feel totally overwhelming. They
may even make you feel rage. Justice jealousy is definitely one
of them.


Justice jealousy—a term that was coined by Jessica Fern (one of
our favorite authors and recurring PWF guest)—can happen when
your partner wasn’t able to provide something for you in the
past, and then you witness them providing that same thing to one
of their other partners. Ouch!


The feelings that come up in these situations can be strong. So
we’re here to give you strong frameworks, ideas, and tools that
can help you understand, unpack, and work towards finding a
resolution. (Spoiler alert, resolution might not look like what
you had in mind when justice jealousy is in the picture!)


In this episode, we talk about:


— Why it’s important to know the difference between jealousy and
envy


— What underlying issues can fuel strong feelings of justice
jealousy


— Why it may be more helpful to focus on empathy and
understanding instead of strict ideas of fairness


— The complexities of relationship repair in situations of
justice jealousy


— Communication, forgiveness, healing, and the tools that can
help you work through justice jealousy and its related issues


Resources mentioned in this episode: Polysecure: Attachment,
Trauma and Consensual Non-Monogamy by Jessica Fern


Imago Dialogue: Episode 129 of Playing With Fire


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Music: Dance of Felt by ⁠Blue Dot Sessions