153 Limerence vs. New Relationship Energy

Have you ever had really strong feelings for someone— so strong
that they took over your brain (and maybe even your life)? That
kind of obsession can be super exciting, but it can also have big
consequences.


Limerence and New Relationship Energy are two kinds of intense
romantic fixation that have some key differences, and we’re
diving deep into both of them.


We’ve been there—and that’s why we want to help you navigate
these (exciting, scary, complicated… the list goes on!!) states
of being.


In this episode, we’re covering:


— Symptoms and characteristics of limerence, including intrusive
thoughts and ambiguity


— How NRE can disrupt or challenge existing relationships in the
context of non-monogamy


— Our own personal experiences with limerence and NRE, and the
challenges it brought to our relationships


— The difference between limerence and NRE, and why making that
distinction can help you better understand your feelings


— The psychological effects of limerence, and why it involves so
much asymmetry


— The role of projections in and their impact on new, limerent,
and existing relationships


— Strategies for navigating NRE and limerence, including
communication, boundaries, and self-compassion


Resources mentioned in this episode:


— The book The Limerent Mind by Lucy Bain


— The book Living With Limerence by Dr. L


— Love and Limerence: The Experience of Being in Love by Dorothy
Tennov


— Dr. Sophia Graham on signs that new relationship energy may be
problematic


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Read the transcript of this episode here


Music: Dance of Felt by ⁠Blue Dot Sessions