170 Jealousy & Attachment Panic

“Jealousy is just insecurity, so if you become more secure in
yourself, you won't feel jealous anymore.” Ever heard that one
before? We have, and we don’t agree. One of the reasons I
love thinking about, talking about, and doing
academic research on jealousy is that jealousy contains
multitudes. Insecurity and attachment issues are just one of its
many facets.


People tend to over-simplify jealousy because it can feel like a
loaded word. Jealousy can get all mixed up with fear, shame,
guilt, attachment challenges, and a bunch of other tricky, tender
stuff. We made this episode to help you untangle those feelings
and frameworks without pathologizing or boxing in your emotions
and experiences.


On this episode, we’re talking about:


— The complex and multiple nature of jealousy


— How attachment and jealousy are related


— Why jealousy is not a bad word, and why it’s actually one of
our favorite things to talk about


— Strategies for dealing with jealousy


— Using nervous system regulation tools to help you move through
experiences of jealousy


— The importance of giving yourself permission to try new
strategies, even if they might not work perfectly


— How to disrupt habitual patterns and reactions to jealousy to
achieve different outcomes in your life and your relationships


— The power of patience and self-compassion when you are
struggling with jealousy


— How to create a jealousy rescue plan


Resources mentioned in this episode:


— The Jealousy Roadmap & The Jealousy Resource Center


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Music: Dance of Felt by ⁠Blue Dot Sessions