EMDR for Sex Addicts with unresolved childhood issues

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Unresolved issues; unprocessed childhood issues, loose canons,
unpotted snooker balls - are some of the terms that I use, for
the process of work that I do multiple times every day with
clients - using EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation Reprocessing).


Another analogy that I use (but please don't tell my EMDR
colleagues that I described it to you like this)! It is as if you
own an 8 bedroom mansion house; but for some reason, over lots of
years, you never go into 3 of the bedrooms. Over time, the things
in those 3 bedrooms (just like many attics), gather cobwebs and
dust and are hidden.


When Eye Movement begins - known as BLS (Bilateral Stimulation) -
it is as if the brain goes into those 3 bedrooms and begins to
remove the drapes, blow away the cobbwebbs and finds thing that
you did not remember about. You may let out a shriek or
exclamation (inside of you and unconsciously). It might sound
like this:


"....oh my goodness. Oh look. I had forgotten about that. But if
that was present at the time of [the negative event] that which I
have been carrying all these years, about the event, can't be
entirely accurate! I now need to integrate the stuff found in
those 3 bedrooms - into my view of the past event. That means I
can't continue to see it quite the same way any more, because the
stuff I can now see and better understand, is giving me a
different/ more accurate knowledge about the events; which was
not a full picture that I carried all these years. That makes
sense, since the Limbic/Emotional part of the brain must have
been making all the decisions during the negative impactful
event; the logical reasoning/Pre-Cortex part of the brain would
have gone off-line and major decisions being taken based on
feelings. I feel, so I do...." 


Get some help from The Kairos Centre. See what you cannot see.
Begin to change that which you begin to better understand.


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Gary McFarlane (BA, LLM, Dip, Certs), Accredited EMDR
Practitioner.
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