A Sex Addict's view of relationship highs & lows

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Highs and lows of the Couples relationship is a given. What
impacts you, may not impact a partner and vice versa. Childhood
development personality and characteristic sharping experiences,
play a significant part in that process.


Sex Addicts need to take their shoes off and step into the shoes
of a partner in order to see the relationship from the partner's
vantage point and perspective. All clients with Sex and/or Porn
Addiction have traits which come from Narcissism. (That does not
mean they are necessarily to be diagnosed with NPD -
Narcissistic Personality Disorder).


Seeing life and the relationship from the vantage point of the
impacted partner is going to be very scary for the Addict. It
means that they have to set aside Narcissistic tendencies and
embrace Empathy for a short while.


That really is scary indeed for the Sex/Porn Addict with
Narcissistic traits. Most of them believe that they are Empathic
and 'do' for others. (I suggest that they are Empathic in a
conditional way; only so long as something comes back to reward
them for good deeds; but they cannot see it and would strongly
object to this statement).


I suggest that the antidote to Narcissism is Empathy. They both
CANNOT co-exist at a high level of expression in the same person.
Just like the same poles of a magnet repel each other, so it is
with Narcissism and Empathy. Only one can rule and be (being)
used at a higher degree than the other.


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Episode Keywords: Sex Addiction | Porn Addiction |
Love Addiction | Porn Causes | Recover from Addiction |
Self-Soothing Behaviors | Childhood Trauma | Inner Child work |
Childhood Development and Addiction bullying | Porn Addiction
Recovery | Abuse | Sexual Abuse | Sex Addiction Recovery |
Domestic Violence | Family Conflict | Overcoming Porn addiction |
Porn Addiction Side effects | Porn Addiction Symptoms | Emotional
Neglect | Quit Porn Addiction | Peer Pressure | Performance
Pressure | Separation | Divorce | Fear | Anxiety | Stress |
Mental Health and Addiction | Dissociation | Anger | Husband has
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Desensitization Reprocessing | Compulsive Behavior | Trauma
Healing | Neuroplasticity | Online Therapy | The Kairos Centre |
Neuroscience of Addiction | Porn Addiction Help | Sex Addiction
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Thoughts | Fantasy Escape | Codependency | Shame in Addiction |
Guilt in Addiction | Addiction in Relationship | Infidelity |
Therapy for Addiction | Objectification | Hypersexualization |
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