Sex Addict - first learn Intimacy, Sensuality & Romance, before sex

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When there is conflict in the couples relationship, sex and
intimacy becomes the first casualty which fly out the window. It
is very difficult (sometimes feels impossible) to physically
touch the person with whom you are in conflict.


Yet, touch is exactly what you need to do to begin to break down
the walls set in place by conflict. Touch is then so very, very
impossible to do.


The antidote is to learn to do physical (non-sexual) touch with
the person with whom you are in conflict, in order to begin to
break down the walls of hostility. But it is hard. "Boy is it
hard". But a prize awaits you.


Try it. Throw caution to the wind and dive in - with physical
(non-sexual) touch. Overcome yourself. Overcome pride. Get you
and your ego out of the way. Just do it.


Don't talk. Just touch. Just embrace - if you dare. The other
person may not welcome your endeavours - initially. (Be warned).


Expect the bucking horse. "Get off me. What are you doing. Leave
me alone". Its going to happen! Hold on in there for dear life
and eventually the bucking horse will reduce. Will calm. Don't
talk.


 Expect the intimidation - which goes with our current
culture - "You need to respect my space". There is a prize if you
can stay in there. It's worth it.


Even as I write these words, I am intimidated because the
naysayers in our current culture will be getting ready to
chastise me with their disagreement. (The insistence that we must
respect another's space and not intrude). That is powerful
intimidation.


Psychosexual Therapy (I just call it Sex Therapy) with The Kairos
Centre, is not about sex. The first thing that we do is to ban
sexual intercourse. Then teach how to rebuild intimacy,
sensuality and romance at a higher level.


Done well, it paves the way for the couple to naturally want to
consummate the rebuilt relationship, by progressing to a sexual
expression. At that point, I am getting ready to come out of
their lives and leave them with the next 80 years to practice
this thing called sex!


Get some help from The Kairos Centre. See what you cannot see.
Begin to change that which you begin to better understand.


Gary McFarlane (BA, LLM, Dip, Certs), Accredited EMDR
Practitioner.
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