"I wish someone would have told me....": Porn is going to rob me of...

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Consider the exerts form this article written by a woman (Lauren
Dubinsky - What I wish I'd Known Before Watching Porn,
2012):

"I wish that 10 years ago someone had educated me on pornography.
What it is, what it does and what it reaches in and destroys in
the hearts, minds and bodies of men and women.
I wish that someone would have told me that researchers have
suggested it sabotages your sex life.
I wish someone would have explained how dopamine.... drives you
to return to what provided that feeling.....
I wish someone would have told me that the kind of pornography
you're most turned on by is usually linked to a corresponding
hurtful event in your life, further injuring your
brokenness.
I wish someone would have told me pornography would normalize
things I wasn't emotionally or physically ready to
handle......
I wish someone would have told me I would begin to objectify men,
build up images in my mind and think of sex day in and day
out.....
I wish someone would have told me it would make me feel less
valuable to men and bring up insecurities for years in the
bedroom.
I wish someone would have pointed out pornography can establish
your sexuality completely apart from real-life
relationships....
I wish someone would have explained what "sexual anorexia" was
and that countless young men are unable to get erections because
they've been watching porn since they were around 14 years
old.
I wish someone would have told all the men I've dated that the
porn they are watching is keeping them from being turned on by
me....
I wish someone would have told me that the dopamine and oxytocin
being released from my watching certain types of pornography
would cause me to question my sexual orientation.....
I wish someone would have told me it would subtly create a
"victim" mentality in my mind....
I wish someone had talked about how women watch it too....
My "I wish" list is nowhere near complete...."


Thought it would all look differently for females? Naaah! Not at
all.

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Gary McFarlane (BA, LLM, Dip, Certs) is a Relate
trained and experienced Relationship counsellor, Mediator and
undertakes Sex Therapy & Sex Addiction treatment. He is also
a member of the National Counselling Society, the Association for
the Treatment of Sexual Addiction & Compulsivity (ATSAC),
stopSO, and an Accredited member of the Assoc of Christian
Counsellors. He also practices EMDR (Eye movement desensitization
and reprocessing) as an Accredited EMDR Practitioner, working
with clients globally via secure webcam.
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