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Shame is a massive component that underpins, causing, enhances
and maintains the proliferation of sex, porn, love addiction. In
this context, we are discussing toxic or what is  otherwise
called unhealthy shame.

Guilt & embarrassment are off-shoots of shame, but they are
different. We can recover from those, but toxic shame says "you
are a mistake". That leaves no hope for change.

Shame tells you a lie. Don't believe the lie. Don't buy into the
lie. Yet you do and you have to, because shame is "hiddenness"
and requires that you go into hiding and stay in hiding.

A female partner, learning about the behaviours, also comes under
its canopy and is also forced into hiding the stuff. Shame rubs
its hands in glee.

Undermine shame by coming out of hiding; by telling and sharing
your story. Your brain and shame will fight you and block you,
but do it.

Get to a 12 steps group. That is the safe place to start to
undermine shame by coming out of "hiddenness" and telling your
story. That is a good forum.

Find a Therapist specialised in sex, pon, love addiction. That is
also a great forum to begin the process of undermining
shame.

Let the team at The Kairos Centre Team show you how.

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Gary McFarlane (BA, LLM, Dip, Certs)
is a Relate trained and experienced Relationship counsellor,
Mediator and undertakes Sex Therapy & Sex Addiction
treatment. He is also a member of the National Counselling
Society, the Association for the Treatment of Sexual Addiction
& Compulsivity (ATSAC), stopSO, and an Accredited member of
the Assoc of Christian Counsellors. He also practices EMDR (Eye
movement desensitization and reprocessing) as an Accredited EMDR
Practitioner, working with clients globally via secure
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Episode Keywords: Sex Addiction | Porn Addiction |
Love Addiction | Root Causes | Brain Impact | Self-Soothing
Behaviors | Family Conflict | Emotional Neglect | Peer Pressure |
Performance Pressure | Separation | Divorce | Fear | Anxiety |
Stress | Pain | Dissociation| Recovery Program | EMDR Therapy |
Emotional Event | Trauma Healing | Neuroplasticity | Online
Therapy | Sex Addiction Recovery Program | Compulsive Behaviors |
Intimacy Issues | Sexual Dysfunction | Obsessive Thoughts | Guilt
| Infidelity | Traumatic Bonding | Objectification |
Hypersexualization | Pornography Industry | Love Addiction
Patterns | Attachment Styles | Sexual Compulsivity | Behavioral
Therapy | Relapse Prevention | Emotional Regulation | Healing
Journeys | Intimacy Building | Healthy Relationships |
Empowerment | Childhood Development | Parental Influence | Family
Dynamics | Attachment Theory | Early Experiences | Coping
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