Give me my Porn: Fight/Flight/Freeze - there are benefits - not!

Send us a text


On-Demand Programme Link -
https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre

Core Emotional Needs, such as Approval, Attention, Security,
Respect (and more) get depleted over time and as human beings,
getting them met, and kept topped up, is not optional. We will
consciously, but mostly unconsciously Fight/Flight/Freeze in
order to get them met.

They desire to be met. You are in danger zone for Acting out, as
a way to fulfil those needs - temporarily. Yet, temporarily (at
the time), is good enough and promises a fix.

Fight may take the form of passive-aggressive. You are out of
sort with a partner and you know that they know; they are worried
that because of it, you may Act out; but you throw caution to the
wind and don't care. In fact, quietly, you are pleased they fear
you might act out. That is a way you get back at them and give
them their "comeuppance".

You know what Flight response looks like don't you? That is when
you run into the arms of "Mrs Porn" or "Mrs Sex" or the pursuit
of love & affection. Here is my definition of Flight: You
move yourself out of the place where you perceive that your Core
Emotional Needs are not being met and instead, put yourself in a
place where you perceive your Core Emotional Needs will more
likely be met.

Freeze, isn't entirely freeze! It is more about "just getting on
with life". Just don't think about it. Throw caution to the wind.
Self-pity maybe. 

Getting Core Emotional Needs met is not negotiable. At some point
you will be doing Fight/Flight/Freeze, to get them met.

Better understand the dynamics. Let The Kairos Centre come
alongside your journey.

Presented by The Kairos Centre - Bringing colour back to life -
without shame. Get the help you need:
bit.ly/pornaddictionhelp
The Kairos Centre created one of the world's first comprehensive
Online Webinar Sex, Porn, Love Addiction video-on-demand Recovery
Programme; where you discover the real, authentic you. Please
visit our website to learn more about this course and our
services at www.kairos-centre.com or email
info@kairos-centre.com


Now launched: A Video-on-Demand Online Course (for Singles,
Couples/Marrieds/Partners) Access here -
https://www.kairos-centre.com/changement-on-demand/
Gary McFarlane (BA, LLM, Dip, Certs)
is a Relate trained and experienced Relationship counsellor,
Mediator and undertakes Sex Therapy & Sex Addiction
treatment. He is also a member of the National Counselling
Society, the Association for the Treatment of Sexual Addiction
& Compulsivity (ATSAC), stopSO, and an Accredited member of
the Assoc of Christian Counsellors. He also practices EMDR (Eye
movement desensitization and reprocessing) as an Accredited EMDR
Practitioner, working with clients globally via secure
webcam.
Support Our Show
 Linktree - https://linktr.ee/garymcfarlane
Episode Keywords: Sex Addiction | Porn Addiction |
Love Addiction | Root Causes | Brain Impact | Self-Soothing
Behaviors | Family Conflict | Emotional Neglect | Peer Pressure |
Performance Pressure | Separation | Divorce | Fear | Anxiety |
Stress | Pain | Dissociation| Recovery Program | EMDR Therapy |
Emotional Event | Trauma Healing | Neuroplasticity | Online
Therapy | Sex Addiction Recovery Program | Compulsive Behaviors