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One such tool - is your Support Structure of people that you can
call upon when triggered and the going is tough on a particular
day - to get you through that day. Who is in your Inner circle of
three close support contacts?

Don't go it alone. Don't be an island; "Shame" loves that and
rubs its hands with glee - "Got ya".

Talk to the three. Tell them your needs. Get agreement to be
there for you day and (night!). You will reciprocate in the
future. Test the friendship and use it.

Then set about carving out one or two others from your Middle
circle (who know nothing about the addiction) that you are lining
up to replenish the Inner circle of three;  in case one of
the three can no longer fulfil that role. Fish and hunt for
Middle circle friends from your existing social haunts, like the
gym buddies, sports buddies, hobbies, clubs, church etc - places
that you frequent on a weekly basis.

Be "purposeful & intentional" as you invest over time, to
develop closer relationships with one or two middle circle
acquaintances that eventually can be moved into the Inner circle.
Got it?

The same then applies to the Outer circle infrequent
acquaintances that you get ready to move into the Middle circle
over time. Remember, no quick fixes; but it moves you out of the
unhealthy associates that pull you back into the addiction. This
is longer term work.

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