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Interview by Damian Andrews of SHAIR.care: What it means to be a
man (1)

What is Man-ness?
There is still a caveman instinct inside of us as men. Has the
image got distorted as men try to metamorphize ourselves to fit
what society tells us a man should be. Trying to fit what we are
really not, is hard work. At some point there may be an increased
desire to self-soothe and escape into cyberworld for a while –
using sex, porn and/or other compulsive behaviours. Consider this
poem:


Children Learn What They Live by Dorothy Law Nolte


If a child lives with criticism, he [she] learns to
condemn.
If a child lives with hostility, he [she] learns to
fight.
If a child lives with ridicule, he [she] learns to be
shy.
If a child lives with shame, he [she] learns to feel
guilty.
If a child lives with tolerance, he [she] learns to be
patient.
If a child lives with encouragement, he [she] learns
confidence.
If a child lives with praise, he [she] learns to
appreciate.
If a child lives with fairness, he [she] learns
justice.
If a child lives with security, he [she] learns to have
faith.
If a child lives with approval, he [she] learns to like
himself [herself].
If a child lives with acceptance and friendship, he
[she] learns to find love in the world.

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Episode Keywords: Sex Addiction | Porn Addiction |
Love Addiction | Root Causes | Brain Impact | Self-Soothing
Behaviors | Family Conflict | Emotional Neglect | Peer Pressure |
Performance Pressure | Separation | Divorce | Fear | Anxiety |
Stress | Pain | Dissociation| Recovery Program | EMDR Therapy |
Emotional Event | Trauma Healing | Neuroplasticity | Online
Therapy | Sex Addiction Recovery Program | Compulsive Behaviors |
Intimacy Issues | Sexual Dysfunction | Obsessive Thoughts | Guilt
| Infidelity | Traumatic Bonding | Objectification |
Hypersexualization | Pornography Industry | Love Addiction
Patterns | Attachment Styles | Sexual Compulsivity | Behavioral
Therapy | Relapse