Opportunity, Trauma & Attachment: Three ways Sex, Porn, Love Addiction are set up

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Interview by Damian Andrews of SHAIR.care: What it means to be a
man (2)

Impediments to having great relationships 


Disruption in the bonding in early childhood development with the
significant caregivers (usually parents), is a key factor. The
male (a father) plays a very important role. Masculinity cannot
be supplemented by a mother. It is not "do as I say", it is "do
as you see me doing". The eyes take in the largest amount of
information during the communication process.


What gets set up in childhood, plays out in adulthood, in how we
interact with others; seeking to bond, yet avoid repeat hurt. It
is called Insecure Attachment. Insecure Attachment in Adulthood,
often presents as “Love Addiction”, where the individual is not
so much chasing Love, but connection; acceptance; to be
inclusive; to be wanted; to be secure.


The stuff of Sex, Porn, Love Addiction is indiscriminate. It
impacts, in a significant way, LGBTQI. See the latest stats in
2023 research:
https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/add.16431
https://www.researchgate.net/publication/378528092

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Episode Keywords: Sex Addiction | Porn Addiction |
Love Addiction | Root Causes | Brain Impact | Self-Soothing
Behaviors | Family Conflict | Emotional Neglect | Peer Pressure |
Performance Pressure | Separation | Divorce | Fear | Anxiety |
Stress | Pain | Dissociation| Recovery Program | EMDR Therapy |
Emotional Event | Trauma Healing | Neuroplasticity | Online
Therapy | Sex Addiction Recovery Program | Compulsive Behaviors |
Intimacy Issues | Sexual Dysfunction | Obsessive Thoughts | Guilt
| Infidelity | Traumatic Bonding | Objectification |
Hypersexualization | Pornography Industry | Love Addiction
Patterns | Attachment Styles | Sexual Compulsivity | Behavioral
Therapy | Relapse Prevention | Emotional Regulation | Healing
Journeys | Intimacy Building | Healthy Relationships |
Empowerment | Exploring Manhood | Understanding Masculinity |
Male Identity | Role of Men in Society |