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Interview by Damian Andrews of SHAIR.care: What it means to be a
man (7)

“Mirror, Mirror on the wall, who is the fairest or them
all”? 


How do you answer that question for you? Learn to love self,
before you can love others.


I use that thing called EMDR to work on the distorted image of
self. (I am an Accredited EMDR Practitioner in the UK). What is
this thing called EMDR? It is Eye Movement Desensitisation
Reprocessing. What a mouth full!


I can talk about it til the cows come home, but you will still
have frowns on your forehead. Watch a few of the video
clips: 


https://youtu.be/9uE04Blfd-Q?si=MrNZZmCAgmTmOUo7  EMDR
(Prince Harry) experience


https://youtu.be/M2ra8p4MSOk


https://youtu.be/bIJZQAr9nQo


https://youtu.be/HNdMHuwvF_M


https://youtu.be/xZVw-9ThmSM


Stop accepting the crumbs off the table. The brain’s dialogue
with you can go like this: 


“It’s better to have someone, than no one; but people are not
safe. Keep them at arms-length and be ready to retreat quickly,
if you get a whiff or hint that they are unhappy and may finish
with you. It is best to torpedo the relationship; jettison it and
protect your heart from further pain, before they do it to you.
So, throw in a hand grenade (effectively, to create conflict so
as to force the other person to have to leave and finish with
you); and then the ‘fait accompli’ kicks in, where – ‘I knew they
would finish with me at some point’. (When in fact that was not
necessarily what they were planning), but more important that you
do it to them, before they do it to you, because it hurts less,
done that way and you are then in more control of the pain, than
if it is done to you and you were caught off guard (again). Make
sense?


“Do onto others, before they do it to you” – is being played out
repeatedly. It all makes logical sense to your brain, even if it
doesn’t to you!

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