"SHAME on you" - are particularly triggering, toxic & impactful words to Sex Addicts

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Shame is set up in childhood. Life is unfair. Yep.

The presence of shame is a particularly powerful driver for
sexual addiction. Shame means “to hide” and is a hidden companion
of Narcissism.

SHAME + NARCISSISM = SEX ADDICTION


Shame is the painful feeling of being unacceptable. It is a
feeling of being inferior. It is “a wound made from the inside
by an unseen hand”. There is something about “Attachment”
issues and what happened as a child with the main caregiver.


It comes from a core belief about self and a feeling (which is
not necessarily true at all – but is believed and acted upon).
Shame disrupts the natural functioning of the self. Shame emerges
out of addiction. Shame causes addiction and compulsivity. It
says: “I am not measuring up”.

There is a diminished self-concept; a lowering of one’s self
worth. There is a difference between Guilt & Shame. Guilt
says: “I made a mistake”. Shame says: “I am not measuring up; not
good enough; not accepting of self; I am a mistake”.

Someone once said that shame is to sex addiction what oxygen is
to fire. Shame is perhaps the most damaging consequence of sex
addiction as it robs people of the power to seek the support and
love of others that they so desperately need.

Shame can drive people further into their self-destructive
behaviours as they increasingly feel this is all they deserve.
Shame isolates and drives the behaviour deeper and deeper into
secrecy. The antidote, is to come out of hiding - with some help
- into the 'right' arena.

Do the SHIELDS Exercise with The Kairos Centre, to make SHAME
visible and touchable.

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Gary McFarlane (BA, LLM, Dip, Certs), Accredited EMDR
Practitioner.
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