40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk.
Gay guys talking about gay guy stuff, without the fluff, and a whole lot of crazy vulnerability mixed in.
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01.08.2025
39 Minuten
Author Christopher Rice (aka C. Travis Rice) talks about his newest
steamy romance Party of 3—and the real-life complexities
behind the fantasy. From open relationships to throuples, they dive
deep into poly dynamics, personal authenticity, post-sex separation
cues, and why queer relationships don’t need to fit straight molds.
Whether you’re monogamous, open, curious, or somewhere in-between,
this episode is your permission slip to rethink how love
should look—and start defining it for yourself. In this
episode you'll
Learn what might happen when your throuple goes outside the
bounds
Be pushed to embrace others and their choices to live life on
their terms
Understand how relationships can get sticky but how to be in
the moment and grow
About C. Travis Rice
CHRISTOPHER RICE is A New York Times bestselling author who
writes under the pen name C. Travis Rice and delivers the
fourth book in his Sapphire Cove series titled: SAPPHIRE DAWN.
He is the recipient of the Lambda Literary Award. He is the
Amazon Charts and New York Times bestselling author of: A
Density of Souls; Bone Music, Blood Echo, and Blood Victory in
the Burning Girl series; and Bram Stoker Award finalists The
Heavens Rise and The Vines. An executive producer for
television, he also penned 2 novels with his mother, Anne Rice:
Ramses the Damned: The Passion of Cleopatra and Ramses The
Damned: The Reign of Osiris. Together with his best friend and
producing partner, New York Times bestselling novelist Eric
Shaw Quinn, Christopher runs the production company Dinner
Partners. Among other projects, they produce the podcast and
video network TDPS, which can be found at
www.TheDinnerPartyShow.com. He lives in West Hollywood,
California, and writes tales of romance between men under the
pseudonym C. Travis Rice.
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25.07.2025
45 Minuten
In this powerful and vulnerable episode I sit down with somatic sex
educator and retreat leader Court Vox for an unfiltered
conversation on reclaiming erotic truth, surrender, and personal
power—especially as gay men navigating a heavy, noisy world. We
dive into:
Why rope work is more than kink—it’s about presence, trust,
and release
How global unrest impacts our capacity for pleasure and
emotional expression
The art of vocal release, erotic rituals, and finding peace
through chaos
How to get involved in his upcoming retreats in Mexico and
Joshua Tree, California, including “Connect,” “Shadow,” and
“Sacred”
Court shares real tools for self-exploration, emotional healing,
and erotic connection—from water rituals to surrender practices—and
invites listeners to rethink the way they engage with desire,
grief, and play. About Court Court Vox is a Certified Sex &
Intimacy Coach, based in Los Angeles CA . He is Founder of The
Bodyvox. Through his courses, workshops, retreats, and private
immersions, clients cultivate toys to unlock limitations and shame,
to embrace a deeper sense of intimacy with their whole self.
Traditional forms of therapy are done solely through talk, while
the work of a somatic coach is to further this form of work via
body-based exercises, experiential learning, and touch, in
comfortable, judgment-free, and caring environments. Body
acceptance, exploration of sensation and desires (and learning how
to ask for what you want), boundary-setting and intimacy work are
some of the many reasons clients seek this form of learning. Vox is
a sex educator experienced working with clients of all sexualities
and genders and has been featured in AskMen.com, Cosmopolitan, and
Well & Good magazines. He offers workshops and retreats across
the globe for GBTQ men, and is also part of an elite team of sex
educators that create the celebrated program for women, Back to the
Body. His online course and community, Invitations to Intimacy,
offers foundations in embodiment suited for the eroticerotic, as
well as a community of like-minded individuals to support one
another on their journey. Attend Courts Events in 2025 Connect
Connect With Court Website Instagram Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are
you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing
you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never
do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40
Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday
of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our
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free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies
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18.07.2025
38 Minuten
What happens when two grown men finally stop pretending and start
living as their fully authentic selves?
In this powerful episode, Rick Clemons sits down with Mark Dembo
to talk about coming out later in life, the messy beauty of
self-discovery, and the liberating (and terrifying) freedom that
comes with being unapologetically you.
They cover:
Guilt, anxiety, and codependence in late-life coming out
Why authenticity is a leadership superpower
Couples counseling, redefining relationships, and facing your
truth
Coaching vs. fixing: helping people find their own answers
The reality of political “allies” who aren’t really allies at
all
Whether you’re on the brink of change or deep in the thick of it,
this episode is your reminder that it’s never too late to come
home to yourself.
About Mark Mark Dembo is a seasoned business leader, executive
coach, and passionate advocate for living an authentic life. After
spending years hiding a core part of who he was, Mark came out as a
gay man later in life — a journey marked by deep introspection,
courage, and ultimately, liberation. His story is one of
transformation, resilience, and the power of choosing to live fully
and truthfully. For decades, Mark lived a life that looked
successful on the outside — husband, father, professional — while
carrying the quiet burden of not being fully seen. Coming out meant
confronting fear, challenging old narratives, and stepping into a
life aligned with who he truly is. Today, Mark lives with
intention, vulnerability, and joy — and he's committed to helping
others do the same. Mark is now finding his true passion in helping
LGBTQ+ professionals — especially those coming out later in life —
navigate transitions, overcome imposter syndrome and
people-pleasing, and create lives rooted in authenticity and
purpose. He’s a community advocate working to ensure and preserve
LGBTQ+ rights and believes deeply in creating spaces where people
feel safe to show up as their whole selves. He is also the co-host
of the Coming Inside Out podcast, which explores the messy,
beautiful, and liberating journey of coming out later in life. With
empathy, insight, and lived experience, Mark brings heart and hope
to every conversation — and is on a mission to help others live and
lead with authenticity. Connect With Mark Instagram Podcast
Facebook Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps
struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling
yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s
time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay
Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at
5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community -
40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold
moves. Live life without apologies
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11.07.2025
45 Minuten
Tired of swiping? You’re not alone.
Tammy Shaklee—LGBTQ relationship expert and founder of H4M
Matchmaking—is here to say what most of us already know: app
fatigue is real, and no one’s finding true love buried in DMs and
torso pics.
In this episode, Tammy and I talk about how real, lasting
connection happens offline—and how you can start being your own
matchmaker (without settling or apologizing for your standards).
Tammy’s introduced thousands of LGBTQ singles across the country
and built a matchmaking empire focused on compatibility, not
algorithms. We’re breaking down her signature method for dating
success, especially for gay men who are ready to stop scrolling
and start connecting.
You’ll learn:
Why dating apps are burning you out (and what to do instead)
How to create real connection in real life
Why being picky isn’t a flaw—it’s power
Ready to date like a grown-ass gay man? Hit play.
About Tammy Tammy Shaklee is a leading LGBTQ Relationship
Expert and President of one of the country’s top LGBTQ certified
matchmaking companies, H4M Matchmaking. Since founding the national
offline matchmaking company in Austin, Texas in 2012, Tammy and her
team have successfully paired thousands of LGBTQ clients across the
country that were seeking long-term committed relationships.
Utilizing skills honed in her previous career as a broadcast
journalist, Shaklee’s reporter objective instincts, acute listening
skills, and same-sex proprietary methodology, provide the ideal
foundation for identifying true compatibility. Her unique process
focuses on traditional introductions and dating for LGBTQ singles
who are interested in achieving relationship success that rivals
their professional success. An LGBTQ ally and advocate, Tammy
understands the challenges singles face when looking for a suitable
mate, as she met her husband through a matchmaking service herself.
Tammy and her husband, Clif reside in Daytona, Florida where she
runs her national company. When not actively pairing her clients,
Tammy is a regular relationship contributor to several LGBTQ media
outlets and mainstream publications. She is currently working on
the completion of her first book. Connect With Tammy Website
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04.07.2025
41 Minuten
Why is it still so hard to just be in your own skin when you’re a
gay Latinx man? From religious guilt to macho pressure, the layers
of shame and silence can run deep. In this episode, therapist and
NYU instructor Lucas Saiter joins us to unpack the
mental health challenges gay Latinx men face—and how we can finally
stop carrying everyone else's expectations. Lucas brings powerful
insight as a clinician, Latinx gay man, and community builder. From
healing identity wounds to rebuilding intimate connections, he’s
helping men take off the mask and find real belonging—in themselves
and in their communities. If you've ever felt like you're too much
or not enough, this one's for you. In this episode we:
Learn how to close the gap between shame and self-lov
Break the patterns of it being rude or disrespectful to
discuss mental health in the Latinx world
Discover how vulnerability is a superpower
About Lucas Lucas Saiter is the founder and director of Manhattan
Therapy NYC and Adjunct Instructor in the Department of Applied
Psychology at NYU. In addition to working in a group practice in
New York City, he also maintains his own private practice,
supervising recent graduates obtaining hours for licensure.
Clinically he has interests in many areas, including LGBTQIA+
individuals working on strengthening identity, Latinx individuals
and couples, immigrants adjusting to living in NYC, adults and
young adults dealing with anxiety, depression, identity concerns,
trauma, and relationship and intimacy concerns. Connect With Lucas
Website Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps
struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling
yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s
time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay
Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at
5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community -
40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold
moves. Live life without apologies
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Welcome to the only podcast exploring the messiness, awesomeness,
of masculinity of being a gay man over 40. Each episode is about
sparking idea, addressing challenges, and diving deep into what it
looks like to be a vulnerable gay guy. We talk about the stuff us
gay guys have a hard time talking about, man-to-man: masculinity,
sex, careers, our bodies, parenting, sexuality, failures, success,
and aging, relationships, coming out - nothing is off limits. 40
Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk is the revamped version of 40 Plus: Real
Men. Real Talk podcast and is a short format podcast that's easy to
digest. We take deep dives - one topic at a time - digging up the
truth of what it’s like to be a gay man, instead of some contrived
expectation of masculinity. We’re reclaiming manhood and our
masculinity by facing our fears, making bold moves, and living life
without apologies. Join us, but you've got to drop your BS, forget
posturing, and be ready to explore the comical dysfunctions of our
lives as gay men 40+ years of age!
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