E210: How To Know When Enough Is Enough

Maybe it’s a gross habit that totally kills the mood… Maybe it’s a
bigger issue that leaves you feeling unseen or disconnected… This
week, we’re diving into a question we hear all the time: Should I
be putting up with this in my relationship? Whether it’s your
partner’s lack of ambition, a dead bedroom, constant yelling, or
socks in the couch cushions (yep, really) — we’re breaking down how
to tell the difference between healthy compromise and straight-up
self-betrayal. We’re walking through real stories submitted by our
audience and sharing tools to help you: Tune into your own
boundaries. Get clear on what’s worth working through. Speak your
truth without blowing things up. The difference between patience
and people-pleasing. When to accept a quirk vs. when to draw a hard
line. How to handle dead bedrooms, defensiveness, and money fights.
What to do if your partner’s gross habits are killing your vibe.
The truth about “sticking it out” vs. knowing when you’ve had
enough. Whether you're questioning the little things (like
nose-picking ) or the big things (like being completely ignored
emotionally or sexually), this episode is here to help you figure
out your next move. Ready to go Deeper with us? Inside our Deeper
membership, you’ll get access to our full library of expert-created
resources, including the guides, courses, and coaching tools we
wish every couple had. PLUS — instant answers to your most intimate
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