E235: How Your Phone Is Secretly Sabotaging Your Connection (and what to do about it)

What if the biggest barrier to intimacy in your relationship isn’t
stress, exhaustion, or mismatched libidos… but your phone? In this
week’s episode, we’re trying something that might feel a little
controversial (and honestly, uncomfortable): no screens before sex.
Yep — for seven days, we challenged ourselves to put down the
devices before any kind of intimacy, whether that meant sex,
cuddling, or even a deep conversation. And let’s just say… it
revealed a lot about how much tech gets in the way of connection.
In this episode, you’ll hear: The surprising ways phone use impacts
intimacy (and resentment) What couples told us about their biggest
“phone fights” Our rules for a 7-day tech detox (and how to adapt
if you have kids) What happened when we actually followed them How
to create healthier phone boundaries — without starting a fight If
you’ve ever caught yourself scrolling mid-conversation or noticed
your partner reaching for their phone after sex, this one’s for
you. Because here’s the truth: your relationship with your phone
might be hurting your relationship with each other way more than
you think. Ready to reconnect? Take our free Intimacy Quiz to
uncover what’s missing (and how to get it back). Discover your
intimacy type and get personalized tools to help you communicate
better, desire more, and feel closer than ever. Take the quiz now
and unlock your results: https://vmtherapy.com/5keys Stay connected
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