E214: The Truth About Being Touch-Starved (Even In A Happy Relationship)

This week, we’re diving into something that seems simple but holds
a lot of power in your relationship: touch. Whether it's a
lingering hug, a soft shoulder squeeze, or just holding hands while
watching Netflix — physical touch is one of the most important (and
underrated) ways to build connection, intimacy, and trust. But if
you’ve found yourselves touching less — or if touch feels off
somehow — you’re not alone. We asked our audience, and: 47% said
they want more touch 37% said they want better touch In this
episode, we’re breaking down why touch is so essential — and why so
many couples stop doing it. (Spoiler: it's not just about sex.)
Plus, we’re giving you practical tools and one super simple free
exercise (takes 5 minutes) to start reconnecting through touch
today. Here’s what we’re covering: The emotional and physical
benefits of touch (for both of you) Why “touch starvation” is real
— even in long-term relationships The surprising ways you may be
unintentionally avoiding touch The difference between sexual and
non-sexual touch — and why both matter What to do if your partner
says “touch just isn’t my love language” Quick, everyday ways to
bring more affection into your relationship (no grand gestures
required) Ready to explore all the ways to touch? We created The
Secret Touch Blueprint to help you and your partner reflect on what
kinds of touch feel best to you — and how to talk about it
together. Grab it here https://free.vmtherapy.com/touch-blueprint
And if doing that exercise leaves you thinking, “Wait… I want more
of this,” you’ll love what’s coming next. This July, we’re
launching a 4-week Sensual Touch Challenge exclusively inside our
Deeper membership. It’ll walk you through 8 specific types of touch
— from relaxing to arousing — with fun prompts, step-by-step
videos, and guided exercises to try with your partner. It’s
designed to bring back the playfulness, the exploration, and the
kind of touch that makes you feel again. Pillow Talks listeners get
25% off their first month of Deeper with code PILLOW
https://vmtherapy.com/touch Links & resources: The Secret Touch
Blueprint https://free.vmtherapy.com/touch-blueprint Join the
Sensual Touch Challenge (starting July 7 inside Deeper)
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