E215: Mismatched Sex Drive Types: The #1 Reason Couples Struggle With Desire

Does it ever feel like you and your partner are just never on the
same page when it comes to sex? One of you wants it more often. One
of you needs things to be just right. One of you initiates. One of
you never does. It can feel frustrating, confusing, and even a
little bit lonely. But there’s a good chance the issue isn’t
actually about how much you want sex… it’s about how you want sex.
In today’s episode, we’re breaking down one of the most important
tools we’ve ever shared: the two sex drive types. If you’ve ever
felt like your desire is broken—or that your partner just doesn’t
“get” you—this conversation is about to change everything. Here’s
what we’re covering: The real difference between mental desire and
physical arousal What it means to be a Spontaneous vs. Responsive
type Why you’re not low desire… you just need a different kind of
start How to navigate mismatched sex drives without resentment Why
your type has nothing to do with gender (but the stats may surprise
you) How to initiate sex in a way that works for both of you You’ll
also hear a game-changing mindset shift that can help you stop
taking it personally—and start working with your differences
instead of against them. Links & Resources Join us inside
Deeper to access the brand new Sensual Touch Challenge and finally
understand what turns you (and your partner) on
https://vmtherapy.com/touch What’s your sex drive type?
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