E219: The Truth About Female Orgasm: Your Q’s Answered!

You’ve probably heard people say, “Oh, you’ll just know.” But what
if… you don’t know? This week, we’re diving deep into one of
Vanessa’s all-time favorite topics (and the one she first became
known for as a sex therapist!): the female orgasm. Whether you’re
wondering if you’ve ever actually had one, struggling to feel much
of anything, or just desperate to experience the kind of
toe-curling, body-melting release you’ve seen in movies — this
episode is for you. We’re answering your most personal, vulnerable,
and downright relatable questions like: “How do I know if it was an
orgasm ?” “It felt good… but it was short — does that count?”
“Everyone says I’ll ‘just know’ but I’m still not sure. HELP.”
“I’ve only ever had ‘mini’ orgasms — is there something wrong with
me?” “What leg positions help or hurt the chance of orgasming?”
“Does a full bladder make orgasms feel stronger?” “What does a
vaginal orgasm even feel like and how do I know if I’ve had one?”
Vanessa also opens up about her own experience struggling with
orgasm (yes, even as a sex therapist), what finally changed things,
and the biggest myths that keep women stuck. And if you’ve been
feeling overwhelmed, broken, or like you missed the memo on
pleasure… this episode will remind you that you’re not alone — and
there is a path forward. PLUS: If you’re a woman who’s struggled
with orgasm (or never had one), check out our course Finishing
School — the step-by-step system that’s helped thousands of women
finally get there. Visit vmtherapy.com/orgasm to learn more. What
You'll Hear: The most common signs of orgasm (and why they can look
different for every body) Real questions from listeners who aren’t
sure if they’ve had one yet Why some orgasms feel big and some
feel… meh The orgasm “standard” we’ve all been sold by Hollywood
Practical tips for recognizing and expanding your pleasure How
Vanessa’s own orgasm journey inspired her to create Finishing
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