E221: How to Explore Your Kinks Without Shame (Cuckolding, Pegging, Breeding, and more)

Ever wondered why you have a certain kink? Or if it’s OK to
fantasize about someone else during sex? Or maybe you’ve been
curious about cuckolding, breeding kinks, or pegging… but didn’t
know who to ask. Well some of you asked us! And today, we’re
answering your questions about kinks and fantasies. From the
psychology of desire to navigating mismatches with your partner,
we’re tackling the wild, the vulnerable, and the deeply human side
of sexual exploration (as always, with zero shame and plenty of
insight). Whether you’re curious, cautious, or kinky AF, this
episode is packed with permission, perspective, and practical
advice. Let’s get into it. Here’s what we’re covering: - Why we
have kinks (and why you don’t need a “reason” to justify them) -
The most common sexual fantasies and what they really mean - The
difference between a fantasy and a desire (and how to safely
explore both) - Can you fantasize about someone else during sex
with your partner? - What to do when your fantasy doesn’t match
your partner’s - How to explore pegging, role reversal, and butt
stuff (without shame) - The sex club fantasy (that’s not about
group sex) - Navigating gender play, lingerie, and makeup with
confidence Links & Resources - Episode 53: How To Spice It Up
In The Bedroom: Exploring Kink For Beginners
https://vmtherapy.com/episode53 - Justin Lehmiller’s Tell Me What
You Want (Science of Sexual Fantasies)
https://sexualhealthalliance.com/justin-lehmiller-science-of-fantasy
- Episode 213: What Do Men REALLY Think About…? Part 3 (Doggy
Style, Aging, Leg Hair & More!)
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Subscribe to Pillow Talks wherever you listen to pods! Timestamps
00:00 – Why we have kinks 08:27 – 7 most common fantasies 11:25 –
Difference between kinks and fantasy 19:03 – Cuckolding 25:30 –
Fantasizing about other people during secs 30:15 – Breeding kink
32:32 – Sex club with spouse 39:15 – MMF threesome vs. MFF 43:46 –
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