E224: The Beginner’s Guide to Sex Toys & Tools

There is absolutely zero shame in using toys in the bedroom. In
fact, they can be a game-changer for pleasure, intimacy, and just
plain fun. Whether you’re curious about where to start, nervous
about how your partner might react, or worried about your kids (or
pets!) discovering your stash, we’re covering it all in today’s
episode. We’re also sharing some of the funniest (and most
relatable) real-life sex toy stories you sent us. Because if you’ve
ever had a vibrator confiscated by your toddler or opened a box of
anal beads in front of your in-laws, you are definitely not alone.
Here’s what we’re diving into: The best starter toy for women How
to talk to your partner about wanting to use toys (without hurting
their feelings) Whether orgasms feel different with a toy Why it’s
totally normal if toys aren’t your thing Talking to men about male
sex toys Using toys solo vs. with a partner How often to use toys
(and why your partner should never “hand you off” to one) The best
ways to store your toys so kids or family don’t stumble across them
Hilarious (and mortifying) real-life mishaps from our listeners If
you’ve ever had questions about sex toys and tools or just want a
good laugh at the stories we’ve collected — this one’s for you.
Resources & Links: Our sex toy recommendations
️https://vmtherapy.com/recommended-products Episode 172 How to
Bring Toys Into the The Bedroom Without Making it Weird
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Pillow Talks wherever you listen to pods! Timestamps 00:00 – Intro
04:21 – Safety tips: What “For Novelty Use Only” really means 11:11
– Best beginner toy for women 19:24 – How to talk to your husband
about toys (without hurting his feelings) 26:21 – Will your orgasm
feel different with a toy? 29:03 – Is it normal to not enjoy toys?
30:26 – Can toys make pleasure harder without them? 37:57 – Male
partners trying toys for the first time 43:48 – What if you only
want to use toys solo (not with a partner)? 48:44 – Should you use
toys every time? 53:50 – How to store toys discreetly 55:43 – Funny
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