E225: The Truth About Sex and Aging: Menopause, Erectile Dysfunction, and Libido

Aging is inevitable. But letting your sex life fade away? Nope.
This week, we’re tackling one of our most requested topics ever:
sex and aging. We’re answering your biggest questions about how
intimacy shifts as the years go by: from libido changes, to
navigating menopause, to keeping things hot. In this episode, we
cover: How old is too old to have sex (spoiler: never) What to do
if your libido and your partner’s don’t line up anymore Navigating
perimenopause and helping your partner understand it’s not about
them Feeling sexy in a body that doesn’t look like it did at 20 How
to manage vaginal dryness, erectile changes, and shifting anatomy
Creative ways to keep intimacy exciting even when it feels like
you’ve “done it all” And you’ll also hear sweet (and funny)
messages from listeners who say that sex in midlife and beyond is
actually the best sex they’ve ever had. You’ll also hear some of
our favorite messages from listeners in their 40s, 50s, 60s (and
beyond!) about why sex actually gets freer, hotter, and more
confident with age. Because here’s the thing: aging is inevitable.
But a boring sex life? That’s optional. Ready to spice things up at
any age? Our Ultimate Sex Guide is your roadmap to better intimacy.
Inside, you’ll find: 42 step-by-step positions with illustrations,
tips, and playful modifications A workbook + printable cards to
track your favorites (and keep things exciting) Expert tips and
troubleshooting for when sex doesn’t go as planned An audio version
so you can get quick, shame-free guidance anytime Whether you’re
looking for fresh inspiration or new ways to connect, The Ultimate
Sex Guide will help you discover just how good sex can get! Check
it out here https://vmtherapy.com/ultimate Links &
Resources  Get our sex positions playbook here
https://vmtherapy.com/ultimate E215  Mismatched Sex Drive
Types: The #1 Reason Couples Struggle With Desire
https://vmtherapy.com/episode215 E121 When She Wants It More:
Navigating Mismatched Libidos When The Woman Has A Higher Drive
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Timestamps  00:00 – Intro 03:38 – How old is too old to have
sex? 11:12 – How does libido change with age? 16:22 – When does a
drop in libido become a health concern? 19:18 – Navigating
perimenopause with your partner 33:31 – Body image and aging 39:34
– Best sex positions for older couples 44:34 – Vaginal dryness and
aging 46:18 – Does your labia shrink or change with age? 49:52 –
How to keep your sex life exciting as you get older 54:03 – Trouble
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