E226: Foreplay Frustrations: How to Get More (and Better) Foreplay

Did you know that 64% of people say they want more foreplay than
they currently get? And most people say they wish it was part of
every sexual experience. No wonder foreplay frustrations are so
common. Maybe it feels too short, too routine, or like your partner
just doesn’t quite “get it.” The truth? Foreplay isn’t just a
warm-up. It’s one of the most powerful ways to feel connected,
build anticipation, and experience more pleasure (especially since
only 10–15% of women orgasm from intercourse alone). In this
episode, we cover: Does foreplay actually count as sex? How to ask
for more foreplay without hurting your partner’s feelings. Types of
foreplay beyond handjobs and BJs—like massage, sensory play, toys,
and even “choreplay.” What to do when one of you wants more
foreplay and the other wants less. How to talk about your fantasies
without feeling awkward. Tips for breaking out of a foreplay rut
and keeping it playful. What to do when your favorite turn-on is
your partner’s turn-off. And yes… whether it’s okay to not really
be into foreplay at all. Foreplay can (and should) be one of the
most exciting and intimate parts of your sex life. And after this
episode, you’ll have the tools to make it way more fun, connected,
and satisfying for both of you. Want more foreplay inspiration?
Check out our Ultimate Foreplay Guides. Next level techniques and
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Subscribe to Pillow Talks wherever you listen to pods! Timestamps
00:00 – Intro 10:54 – When your partner won’t give foreplay 18:25 –
Tips for talking about foreplay 23:25 – Exploring different types
of foreplay 31:00 – I want more foreplay, my partner wants less:
finding middle ground 37:55 – How to start the conversation about
foreplay 40:47 – How to mix things up in the bedroom 45:49 – I
don’t want to give blowjobs, but my partner loves them 55:54 –
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