E227: Initiation: What You’re Getting Wrong And How To Get It Right

Hot take: when you finally get initiation right, your entire sex
life opens up. Think about it. No more awkward “was that supposed
to be a signal?” moments. No more pressure on just one person to
get things started. And no more cycle of rejection and resentment.
When initiation feels fun, confident, and mutual, everything else
in your sex life starts to feel easier, more connected, and a lot
more exciting. We’re back with a re-air of one of our most popular
episodes ever, because initiation is one of the biggest challenges
couples face. In this episode, you’ll learn: The biggest mistakes
couples make when it comes to initiation (and what to do instead).
Why one partner often feels all the pressure, and how to change it
up and share the spark. How to shift from frustration and rejection
to connection and desire. Practical strategies to make initiation
feel exciting, flirty, fun, and hot again. If you’ve ever felt
frustrated, annoyed, or even rejected by your partner’s initiation
attempts (or lack of them), this conversation will help you see
both sides of the equation and give you totally do-able techniques
you can try tonight. $40 FLASH SALE : Art Of Initiation We’re doing
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Inside, you’ll learn how to initiate in ways that actually feel
amazing for both of you. Trust us, it’s a total game-changer. Grab
AOI here: vmtherapy.com/initiation and use code FLASH40 at
checkout. Links & Resources E73: Do You Ever “Owe” Sex To Your
Partner?: https://vmtherapy.com/episode73 What’s Your Sex Drive
Type? Free Download: 
https://free.vmtherapy.com/sex-drive-type E38: You Want Connection,
Your Partner Wants Sex. Who Comes First?:
https://vmtherapy.com/episode38 E183: How To Get More Emotional
Intimacy From Your Partner https://vmtherapy.com/episode183 Stay
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