E230 How to Actually Enjoy Oral Sex (Without Overthinking It)

Let’s talk about oral. We’ve all had those moments where oral feels
way more awkward than arousing. You’re lying there, overthinking
everything: Do I smell weird? What do I do with my hands? Is my
partner secretly counting down the seconds until it’s over? Sound
familiar? Yeah… you’re definitely not alone. In this episode, we’re
getting into the real, raw, and sometimes ridiculous reasons people
struggle to fully relax and enjoy oral. We asked our community to
spill their biggest insecurities, and let’s just say… you all
delivered. From “I can’t stay present” to “I feel bad making him do
it when I haven’t shaved,” nothing’s off-limits today. We’ll break
down what’s actually going on behind those thoughts, and share
practical, shame-free ways to feel more confident, connected, and
turned on. Here’s what we’re diving into: The top 3 reasons people
can’t relax during oral (and how to fix them). Why it’s okay if you
don’t orgasm every time — seriously. How to ask for what you like
without killing the vibe. What to do when your brain won’t stop
screaming, “am I doing this right?!” And a few of our favorite
“oral attitude adjustments.” Part real talk, part sex-ed, and part
pep talk from your favorite couple who’s been there, done that… and
yes, talked about it on a podcast. If you’ve ever been stuck in
your head, overthinking, or trying to do it “right”… listen in…
because you deserve oral to feel good. Like really good. Wanna take
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Ultimate Foreplay Experience. Our brand-new 4-week challenge that
turns the Ultimate Foreplay Guides into a spicy, step-by-step
adventure. Each week, you’ll tackle a new theme — fingering, hand
jobs, oral, and blow jobs — with flirty assignments, trackable
checklists, and a “Heat Map” to rate your favorite moves. It’s
everything you need to turn “eh, same old routine” into “holy sht,
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