E205: Couples Coaching Session: How To Ask For More Even If You Don’t Know What You Want

We’re back this week with another coaching episode — where we
listen to real voice notes from real listeners who are navigating
some seriously relatable challenges.  From craving more
pleasure but not knowing how to ask for it… to dealing with desire
differences after kids and trying to orgasm for the first time
(yes, ever) — we’re holding space for your stories. If you’ve ever
found yourself thinking:  “Is this it?” “Why don’t I want sex
more?”  “How do I even bring this up with my partner?” You’re
not alone — and this episode is for you. We’re walking through
these submissions with curiosity, compassion, and practical tools
to help these couples — and you — feel more connected, more
confident, and more turned on by your sex life again.   What
we’re going deep on: - When your sex life is fine but also kind of
meh - Why you might not know what you want and how to figure it out
- How to handle performance anxiety (without hurting anyone’s
feelings) - What to do if you’ve never had an orgasm (you’re not
broken!) - When your partner wants sex every day and you’d rather
do anything else - How to stop making sex feel like just another
to-do Resources mentioned in this episode: Deeper Membership -
https://vmtherapy.com/deeper Our affordable, all-access monthly
membership packed with expert-led courses, playful date night
ideas, live coaching calls, and Vanessa AI — your on-demand sex
therapist bestie. Ultimate Foreplay Guides -
https://vmtherapy.com/foreplay  Whether you’re craving more
excitement or just want a refresher on what actually feels good —
these guides make foreplay easier, hotter, and way more fun for
both of you. Finishing School -
https://vmtherapy.com/finishing-school?ref=podcast&utm_term=podcast
Never had an orgasm? Not sure where to start? This course helps you
overcome the emotional and physical blocks that might be getting in
the way of pleasure. How to Have Your First Orgasm (Free Guide) -
https://free.vmtherapy.com/best-orgasm A gentle, shame-free
introduction to learning what feels good — and how to actually
enjoy it. Sex Drive Types Guide (Free) -
https://free.vmtherapy.com/sex-drive-type  Are you responsive
or spontaneous? This guide will help you understand your own desire
type — and why it’s been causing friction in your relationship
(spoiler: it’s not your fault). ️ Performance Issues? We’ve got
you. If you or your partner are struggling with performance anxiety
or feeling pressure to “last longer,” check out these resources: -
How to Talk to Your Male Partner About Performance Issues -
https://vmtherapy.com/youtube-video/how-to-talk-to-your-male-partner-about-his-performance-issues/
- Ep. 149: Partner Performance Problems? Here's What To Do And What
NOT To Do - https://vmtherapy.com/episode149 - Ep. 47: What Penis
Performance Problems Really Mean - https://vmtherapy.com/episode47
- What to Do If You Have Performance Anxiety About Your Orgasm -
https://vmtherapy.com/vanessa-marin-sex-therapy/what-to-do-if-you-have-performance-anxiety-about-your-orgasm/
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