12. Why You Are Fighting & How To Break the Cycle with Brett Nikula

Do you ever find yourself in the same argument with your partner
over and over again? Or perhaps there’s distance that has slowly
developed over time and you can’t quite put your finger on why.





In this episode of the Choosing to Heal podcast, I talk with
Brett Nikula, a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Life
Coach & Founder of Pivotal Approach Counseling &
Coaching.





We dive into the conflict cycle and how it impacts every single
one of our relationships (even non-romantic). We share personal
examples and break down the steps of the conflict cycle to help
you understand and break free from your own relationship
patterns. 





In this episode:





How & why couples fall into the Conflict Cycle

How to identify your attachment longings & deeper
vulnerable emotions beneath your surface-level reactions

Personal stories & examples of the Conflict Cycle from
both Brett & Monica

How to own your cycle and take responsibility for your part
in conflicts

How your trauma impacts how you show up in conflict

The skills needed to work through conflict

What couples can do to start healing and repairing






Resources and links mentioned in this episode





Download the FREE Conflict Cycle Worksheet

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HEAL:  Connected Couples Campus 

Full Show Notes HERE 






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Connect with Brett Nikula:





Instagram: @pivotalapproachmn

Podcast: Fighting for Connection Podcast

Brett's website: https://www.pivotalapproach.com/

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