35. Dr. Z on shifting from disengagement to engagement!

As a species, we are hardwired to avoid, control, and escape
whatever makes us uncomfortable. That’s natural and expected.


To avoid is to be human. But what happens when
we avoid things that we care about because they make us
uncomfortable or sad?


What happens when we disconnect from the things that
matter to us because we’re trying to control what we feel? What’s
the long-term outcome of avoidant behaviors in our
lives?


When you make a habit of avoiding the situations and activities
that bring up discomfort, and the avoidance becomes a chronic
pattern, then it's time to make a shift.


This episode will help you recognize avoidance behaviors
that have been keeping you stuck and will tell you how to get
mobilized. You will learn 3 specific activities you need to
schedule in your weekly calendar to stop disconnecting and get
back to your life.


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Wanting to give your best, making the best decisions you can, and
striving to have all the information when something matters to
you, doing these things makes sense because you care deeply.
That’s not necessarily the problem; the problem is when these
behaviors go unchecked, take on lives of their own, and become
more debilitating than fulfilling


This is not a book in which you will read the usual clichés about
high-achieving and perfectionistic actions. This is a book that
shows you how to nurture, cultivate, and enrich your drive for
high achievement without the sleepless nights, many hours of
regret, years of blaming and criticizing yourself, or dwelling
relentlessly on worries, fears, and anxieties.


I believe—and behavioral science shows—that to create and live
the life we want, we need to learn to accept ourselves as we
really are, rather than as we wish to be. And if you’re prone to
being a high achiever and a perfectionist, this book is an
invitation to do so.


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