90. Overcoming fear of failure

Drop your standards! Let go of your perfectionistic tendencies!


If I were paid a dollar every time I heard this message, I would
have a large bank account by now.


When you’re pursuing a top performance – from athletic to
intellectual to artistic ones – it’s fundamental that you
distinguish those common principles that improve your performance
and your well-being altogether.


In this episode, Brad Stulberg and I discussed research-based
skills to deal with high-achieving and striving behaviors in a
skillful manner and without losing yourself. 


Key Takeaways





How to distinguish when perfectionistic actions are working
for you or against you

The difference between values-based goals and ego-driven
goals

How to avoid burnout in the information era

How to manage your proneness to perfectionistic actions

Day-to-day experiences of experiential avoidance

Tips to handle the fear of failure

How to figure out what is on the other side of your fears

How to practice self-compassion when handling our fears






Show notes with time stamps


00:31 Understanding Fear-Based Reactions


01:02 Overcoming Perfectionism


01:36 Interview with Brad Stulberg: High Achieving and Striving
Behaviors


02:19 Reflecting on Your Life and Overcoming Overthinking


03:28 Living According to Your Values


04:10 Using a Values-Based Review to Live the Life You Want


04:46 Conversation with Brad Stulberg: Balancing Productivity and
Wellbeing


05:43 Understanding the Double-Edged Sword of Optimization


08:44 Dealing with Fear of Failure and Regret


17:48 Navigating Ego-Driven Goals and Values-Based Goals


24:09 Overcoming Experiential Avoidance


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