67. Skills to steer clear of group thinking and cope with social rejection

Have you ever played-it-safe by keeping your opinions to
yourself?

When was the last time you felt afraid of social rejection
that you did not say what you really thought about a topic in
fear of rocking the boat?

How often do you play-it-safe by placating and going along
with others' opinions so you are liked by others?






Group thinking, agreeing quickly with others, avoiding sharing
our opinions, or making sure we don’t rock the boat are the many
ways in which we play-it-safe when dealing with fears of
rejection, not being liked, or not belonging in a group. But how
do those playing-it-safe moves work in our relationships with
others and our relationship with ourselves? When is it effective
to minimize interpersonal conflict, and when is it not? How and
when do we examine our beliefs about how things should be? How do
we avoid cognitive rigidity?


In this conversation with Dr. Todd Kashdan, Ph.D., he shares his
research on persuasion, healthy dissentment, group thinking, and
skills to handle conflict that go beyond assertiveness
training. 


Key Takeaways:





How group thinking leads us to “underseen” or “overseen”
social situations or any other matters

What is healthy resentment

Skills to handle cognitive rigidity

The basics of the science of persuasion

How intolerance of uncertainty plays a role in our thinking

Why people in disadvantage still support leaders that don’t
favor them

The case of Evo Morales, the former president of Bolivia, and
how group thinking created a different image of his government






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