272: Allen Scott – From Pornography Addiction to Redemption

We all make mistakes. For some of us those mistakes are harder than
others to live with, especially when that mistake will follow us
for life. From his own sexual abuse at a young age, to his porn
addiction, to being arrested and having to now carry the weight of
being a registered offender, Allen Scott is healing and growing
into the man he is meant to be - a gay man with a past that isn't
getting to hold him back. This is a powerful conversation about
pornography, sexual abuse and may be disturbing to listen to but
I'm inviting my listeners to have an open mind and realize
forgiveness is the way. About Allen Scott Allen Scott is an average
guy on a continuous journey of self-discovery. He comes from a
military family and, while growing up, he lived in Europe and the
US. He is a graduate of the University of West Florida and remains
an avid patron of the fine and performing arts. After joining the
military as an adult, he expanded his world travels to Asia and the
Middle East.

Allen realized at a very young age that he is gay. It remained a
closely guarded secret until high school, which fostered a great
deal of internalized homophobia. After coming out, his newly
revealed sexual orientation was anything but liberating and
caused a huge rift in his family. Although he began to explore
this part of himself during high school, his years in college are
when he truly accepted himself as a gay man.


Unfortunately, due to circumstances stemming from an early
exposure to pornography, which later developed into an addiction,
he eventually found himself ensnared in a web of very
serious legal ramifications. While he acknowledges he cannot
change his actions and has accepted responsibility for them, he
experiences remorse every day and regrets the harm it caused to
all affected.


Allen's experiences with pornography addiction and the associated
legal ramifications have compelled him to become an advocate for
others. He has been through several treatment programs which have
given him hope for the possibility of bridging the gap between
others like him and the society which seeks to remove them to the
periphery.


Going through life as a middle-aged gay man can be difficult
enough in itself. Adding the layer of having any sort of criminal
record only complicates it that much more. Allen's overall
message to other gay men in similar situations is to keep trying.
There will be days when giving up will seem like the best choice.
However, the best thing you can do is get up every day and do
what you can, when you can, and the best you can.


Currently, Allen is writing his own book called Shattered to
Whole Again: My Journey from Pornography Addiction to Redemption.
He plans to use his experiences as a platform for engagements
which may include public speaking, writing, lobbying, advocacy,
and peer support.
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