308: The Go To Relationship Guide For Gay Men – Tom Bruett

Let's be honest. Building a meaningful gay relationship doesn’t
come with an instruction manual—or does it? I say it does. Enter
The Go-To Relationship Guide for Gay Men by Tom Bruett, the
ultimate playbook for navigating love, connection, and everything
in between. Whether you’re struggling with communication, intimacy,
or just figuring out how to meet someone who doesn’t ghost you
after date three, this guide has you covered. Bruett brings
practical advice, expert insights, and a no-nonsense approach to
help you create the relationship you truly deserve. Here's what's
in store in this episode:

Discover the top relationship myths that need busting

Learn the difference between problem solving and
understanding in a relationship - they are different

How to get a relationship that works for you - and that's not
being selfish


About Tom Tom Bruett, LMFT is a therapist, trainer, consultant, and
author who works extensively with the queer community. He is the
founder of the Queer Relationship Institute, which provides therapy
for queer folx and training for therapists who work with queer
relationships. Tom has trained under Drs. Ellyn Bader and Peter
Pearson in the Developmental Model of Relationship Therapy, which
he now trains other therapists in. His book The Go-To Relationship
Guide for Gay Men: From Honeymoon to Lasting Commitment will be
published by Jessica Kingsley in March 2025. In his downtime, he
loves theatre, travel, and collaborating with his partner to keep
their rescue dog, Millie, from causing too much mischief. Connect
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