198 - Proven Mindset to Transforming Fitness From Within With Jared Hamilton

Challenge conventional wisdom on fat loss with a fresh
perspective that prioritizes mental and emotional health as the
foundation for physical change. This episode Amy discusses with
Jared the critical role of addressing underlying issues like
binge eating, emotional eating, and self-sabotage before
embarking on a weight loss journey. Learn about the holistic
approach to fat loss that encompasses metabolic health, habit
formation, and the deep work of aligning your inner world with
your outer goals.


 


Key Takeaways:


Learn the power of identity work in overcoming health
challenges and achieving goals.

Insights into tackling emotional eating, self-sabotage, and
building resilience.

Key habits and thought patterns for long-term health and
wellness.



 


“Most people are putting the cart before the horse so to speak.
So that's the biggest piece is we have to make sure
foundationally you're in a good place. It's why my entire IP is
all dieting from the inside out.”  - Jared Hamilton


 


Jared's Links:


Instagram

YouTube

TikTok

Hamilton Trained Website

Dieting from the Inside Out Podcast



Jared’s Book Recommendations:


The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner
Creative Battles

As a man Thinketh: The Original 1902 Edition (The Wisdom Of
James Allen)



 


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Resources: 


Build Your Health Character with me

5 for 50 Challenge

How to Build Your First Fat-Loss Diet

Amy’s Follow-Through Challenge

5 Common Mistakes Women Over 40 Make That Lead to Belly Fat

Meals over Macros & Structured Flexibility



 


Transcript:


Jared Hamilton  0:00  


I started to feel really heavy about what I did for a living. I
started to feel like do I want to coach? Like questioning this
stuff. Because at the time, like I'd already built my business,
I'd started to scale I'd hired employees like we're growing. And
now I'm like, the thing I thought I wanted isn't what I want
anymore. And so one of the things an early mentor of mine taught
me is when you have lack of clarity, you need to go get quiet and
be by yourself for a while, and be undistracted. So now it's a
running thing I do. I have quarterly what I call Jared
sabbaticals. To this day, I still do these where about once a
quarter a couple times a year, I literally go get an Airbnb
somewhere by myself for several days, just so I can give my brain
time to breathe and process all the things.


 


Amy Ledin  0:40  


What are you doing to create your dream life or your best self?
Why do we see some thrive through challenges while others
struggle? Welcome to F* It!, a podcast where I talk about the
main Fs in my life that have helped me in creating my best self:
faith, family, forgiveness, food, fitness, and formula. Hi, my
name is Amy Ledin and most would say that I've had my fair share
of struggles, whether it was placing my baby for adoption at 18,
facing my marriage-ending affair, or battling stage four cancer
for almost seven years, it's safe to say that I've been through a
lot. Join me as I take you through my story, my journeys, and
share with you the tactical strategies every single week that
will help you thrive and overcome anything you face. That's
right, I'm going to show you how to create a future self that
you'll be proud of. So buckle up, get ready for the ride as I
take you through my story and bring other guests on that have
helped me along the way.


 


 


Amy Ledin  1:32  


So this episode today has been a long time coming to be honest,
because I have known of this person for a long, long time, we
have been in the same circles, he was in Arete Syndicate with us
and I've always loved his content. And recently, we were at an
event together in person and so we actually did this episode
together via video, both on the same couch. And it was so much
fun, emotional, and you know, enlightening. So I am so excited
today to have Jared Hamilton on the podcast. You may know him
from his podcast, which is called Dieting From The Inside Out,
which as I'm sure you were all of you are regular listeners to
the podcast, you know that you are nodding your head going yep,
this is exactly what Amy talks about all the time. And just the
power of mindset, the power of, you know, everything starts from
within. So I'm so excited to have Jared on he has been in the
industry for a long time. And you know, he's one of the
quote-unquote, good guys, one of those people that really gets it
and knows that things all start from the inside. So I'm so
excited for you to listen to this one. And you will see in the
show notes, links to everything about Jared, if you want to go
follow him, you definitely will love his content and will really,
really resonate with it. So here you go.  


 


Amy Ledin  3:01  


I'm so excited to have you on because my podcast, I don't have a
lot of men that come on. And I don't have a lot of men that talk
about sabotage or fat loss. And I feel like you're like,
definitely that's your jam. And that's your area of expertise.
But I want to dive in with you, Jared, about just your past
because I think that boys don't maybe communicate it. Men don't
communicate struggles and I think a lot of people in general just
assume that men don't care as much and they don't you know, so
like, it's more a vanity thing for females. Right? So I listened
to your story and I'm like, we have a lot in common. Take me
through like, how did you get to here, the short and condensed
version. Talk about your childhood first, take me through that.
 


 


Jared Hamilton  3:48  


So, fair warning, it's ever since I started going to therapy and
working through stuff, now it takes nothing to make me emotional.
But basically, so I grew up so I'll be 32 on Saturday. Saturday.
Yeah, this week.  


 


Amy Ledin  4:03  


Oh wow. This Saturday? Oh, happy birthday. My daughter turns 21
on Monday.  


 


Jared Hamilton  4:09  


Okay. Yeah. So here's like, a couple of days. So I'm 32.
Basically, growing up I was so, grew up in Indiana, but I grew up
basically a complete, most people I tell them this and people go,
I would never have guessed or they're like, it makes so much
sense. I grew up as a homeschool kid. So I had never seen the
inside of a public school other than like, if we went to like a
basketball game or something. But I grew up as a homeschool kid
in a small town and I'll put it this way. Trying to think about
how to word this. We'll just say it wasn't necessarily the best
because I, my mom listens to this, I don't want it to be
offensive by any means, but it wasn't the greatest. My parents
did it because they wanted the best like they wanted the best for
us. They didn't want you know, like kids going to public school
system and bad shit happens like they were just, they didn't want
that to happen. Grew up in a more religious household, all the
things and so that's how I started out growing up as a kid. So I
had my struggles, education was always a hard thing for me I
struggled with like learning anything at all. Like, I almost
wonder to this day if I would be diagnosed with a learning
disorder, something like that. So went through, went through all
that. But then now it's time for college. I had no idea what I
wanted to do with my life. I was scared shitless because again,
I've never done anything public. Like I've been homeschooled my
whole life.


 


Amy Ledin  5:32  


It's crazy for me to think of now because you are so natural.
 


 


Jared Hamilton  5:37  


It wasn't always natural, Amy. But no. Well, so what happened
was, well, I left, one thing I forgot, I left out is, but the
thing I think that truly saved the social communication side of
things was when I was about 14, I got involved in martial arts,
because again, I didn't play sports. I was the awkward homeschool
kid that couldn't talk normal.


 


Amy Ledin  5:55  


And back then homeschool was like, you know, for the weirdos I'm
just (inaudible).  


 


Jared Hamilton  5:59  


You're not wrong.  


 


Amy Ledin  5:59  


That's what people labeled it right?  


 


Jared Hamilton  6:01  


Yeah. Now it's like public schools have homeschool options now.
Like, they call it remote now, but anyway, so but what I think
helped me so much was the I got when I was like 14 involved in
martial arts. Well, because then that's the only extracurricular
I had. I literally just was at the school every day, I decided to
take every art they offered. All of it. And then I would just do
as much as I could like finish school and go to the school and
train and do classes. Well then one thing led to another I was
there for years ended up getting like black belts and all that
stuff. But then my got my first coaching job. The guy that owned
the place says, hey, we needed an assistant instructor to help
teach warm-ups and private lessons and stuff. Are you interested?
I go, sure. I'm here every day anyway, I might as well get paid
for it. So started doing that. But then when I'm like a teenager,
I'm doing private lessons with six-year-olds, 60-year-olds,
teaching classes, all the things. So that was beginning stages of
me coaching, those beginning stages me learning how to
communicate and like as you talk to a six-year-old differently
than a 60 year old and all the different things. And then that's
where I found my fascination with physiology and like
biomechanics and all that stuff. So that's when I went to
college. And I'm like, well, I guess I'm gonna be a physical
therapist had no idea I wanted to be, like, go that route.
Actually, I didn't want to necessarily, I'm just my thought was,
what can I do that makes okay money that I tolerate the most,
which is not the way to approach being successful and happy. So
that's what that's the route that I went. But I struggled like a
motherfucker like I like it took me I was wondering like a normal
college. It was like a community college, took me four years to
get an associate's degree, dropped the class every single
semester for the entire four years because I could not handle it
mentally. I couldn't handle the load. The learning just wasn't
happening. I didn't even really know algebra going into that. I
lived in the tutoring center. Anything math related was just like
not, you know, I count calories, as a joke, I count calories for
a living. But it was a struggle like it was hard, like college
was probably the worst. Those were some of the worst four years
ever because it was so stressful, because I was just not
prepared. It was so overwhelming, all the things. But I got
through it, did all that all the stuff. That's why I found out
about this cool thing called personal training. And one of the
classes I took for my degree was like a CPT prep class
essentially. Fell in love with it, I would, they had us doing
like training each other at gyms and shit. And it was so much
fun. But I've always been entrepreneurial. Like when I was 13, I
was going door to door offering to shovel snow and driveways for
like 20 bucks. So I've had this entrepreneurial bone, because I
also grew up playing drums. And then I started teaching drum
lessons. So I've always had like always wanting to do little side
hustles and things like that. Yeah. So did that. But then I fell
in love with this personal trainer thing. I'm like, oh, this is
dope, I get my biomechanic fix, I get to see people before they
go to the physical therapist, and this is actually fun. So that's
dope, then I go. But then I thought well, I can say getting a
normal job. Because at the time I was working for like Papa
John's or like a GNC or just normal jobs. I'm like, well, this
way I can at least schedule clients between classes, and then
make better money. So that's cool. That was my logic. One thing
led to another I was working for three different gyms, one of
them was independent, and I built an entire personal training
company. So but by the time I got there, then I quit all the
corporate jobs. And then I was just pursuing my personal training
business completely full-time. I was doing like 200 sessions a
month soloing it 438 and 9P every day, just grinding my face off,
which was great. I learned more than ever, because like I had
every client, you couldn't, it was to the point where like, you
could give me a client with every single issue you could think of
and I'm like, cool. I've had seven of them or whatever.


 


Amy Ledin  9:37  


Because you have so much experience at that point.  


 


Jared Hamilton  9:39  


Yeah and I did that for years. And then one thing led to another
I decided I didn't want to do personal training thing anymore
because 438 or 9P was a grind. That's when I found this online
thing. So I started creating content on Instagram.


 


Amy Ledin  9:52  


This is his gift by the way, please go follow him.


 


Jared Hamilton  9:56  


I started creating content on Instagram, had no idea what I was
doing, I was like, side by side videos of like a squat, like
don't do it this way, do it this way that kind of stuff, hired my
first mentor out the gate to teach me how to transition my
in-person business online. So one of the best things I ever did
the biggest shortcut I ever took was, before I did anything
stupid, I hired a mentor to show me how to do it.


 


Amy Ledin  10:15  


Very smart. And I will say to add, we met you at Arete so I
already knew meeting you that I'm like, okay, this guy is
interested in personal development, because anyone that is
investing in themselves at that level is like, I'm serious about
change. I'm serious about growth. And immediately I already am
like, hey, these are my people.


 


Jared Hamilton  10:32  


Right. Right. Right. So there's that and then from there, it's
just been growing the online coaching business and then from
since then, I've scaled my company and hired a bunch of people
and (inaudible).  


 


Amy Ledin  10:44  


You've exploded, you're huge on TikTok, I will say like, TikTok,
definitely, that's where I even see you all the time in my
explorer, because I don't even purposely follow people. I like to
just go to like the one where you just scroll and see what comes
out. And then it's like, I like to see who comes up with my
algorithm and you come up for me, so.  


 


Jared Hamilton  11:00  


The joke is, on TikTok, if you follow him, you'll never see him
again.  


 


Amy Ledin  11:03  


Exactly. That's why I don't, I think I follow two people on
there. It's like recipes. And I never see their stuff now.


 


Jared Hamilton  11:09  


You follow me it never shows you again.  


 


Amy Ledin  11:11  


So I definitely think, you and sabotage those two words go
together in terms of like your coaching. Where did this, was it a
personal struggle for you that made you get so interested in it
or was it a like you started to see clients struggle with it?
What made you dive so far into this because you are all about the
inner work and all about coming from the inside out.


 


Jared Hamilton  11:34  


So for me with this kind of stuff, so I struggled with my own
stuff. Growing up, I was a fat kid. I always struggled with all
the things that I teach I struggled with. So like all my friends
were shredded and had six packs and I was like chunky, Jared,
like we talked about on my podcast, like your nickname growing up
was Piglet mine is Eeyore.  


 


Amy Ledin  11:51  


Oh my gosh.  


 


Jared Hamilton  11:52  


Because I was a chunky sad kid is what it was so. So that was one
of my nicknames growing up. So because I've also always been a
very more emotional person as a whole. So like, like right now
like, oh, yeah, beard and tattoos and shit in this like, no, I
will try like that. So and then well and that's why it's weird
that now like, going full circle, the inner game was like, not my
shit. Like, I've always been fascinated by high performers but
that was to the extent of it not that long ago, I thought therapy
was only for suicidal people and psychopaths. Then where it
changed for me was when I started diving into wait, let me take a
step back. So I had all that struggles that's why I can resonate
with our clients so much. Where I got into the realm of
psychology and behavior change and all that stuff, in the deeper
levels of stuff is I saw it with our clients first. So what
happened was, before that, I really dove into personal
development. That's when I like joined things like Arete, and
have a mini library at home, all the books, all the things.


 


Amy Ledin  12:52  


And you've invested, like, let's just keep this in mind. If
you're listening to him, and you're like, oh, because you're
gonna go follow him and you're gonna see how successful he is.
You've also invested a lot into yourself.  


 


Jared Hamilton  13:00  


Yeah, I'm like, on paper, like, I mean, I added it up like,
someone asked me the other day, and I mean, I've invested over
six figures in like, personal development coaching over the years
and things like that. Well, so I started studying people like
psychologists and neuroscientists like Dispenza and Kyle Cease
and Dr. Lapera, and all the things in so that opened up a lot for
me. So then things really changes when I went to therapy because
I thought I was great. Everything is like upstairs, things were
fantastic. But I noticed I saw like, well, I'm doing this thing
where I want to become astronomically successful. I have crazy
goals, all the things, but then I thought to myself, well, I
should probably check to make sure I'm handling my stress well, I
said because like we see with clients, they think they're losing
weight the right way, but starving for three days in the keto
diet is not the best thing, but it's all they know. So I thought
to myself, I go you know, I want to just do a mental checkup. I
feel fine, but I don't want to wait till the sky is falling in
case there is something there. At the time my wife was already in
therapy had been in therapy for a while, which means the
therapist knows all about me because that's how it works. So I
said I'll just have a session with her, her name is Pamela, I
said I'm also going to have a session with Pamela just to check
in on things upstairs. First session, I bawled my fucking eyes
out. I'm telling you, she said tell me about your childhood and I
started like telling her the exact same story that I've told a
million times and I felt this thing coming and coming and I'm
like fuck damn it. I didn't think this was gonna happen. And I
talked about some of the stuff I struggled with as a kid and then
she's like well what were your names and labels and we talked
about the way the intricacies of the Eeyore thing or we talked
about this and then all of a sudden there is some fucking there
so and then I've done therapy since.  


 


Amy Ledin  14:46  


Wow, so you live it I mean you really do came from a personal
like you've seen these things that you teach successful in
yourself, right?  


 


Jared Hamilton  14:56  


Yeah. So after I had that blow up and go like my headspace
entirely changed, my view of therapy changed. Because as soon as
I started therapy, I wanted to also like, it's still a stigma
that men are weak little bitches for it. So then I started
talking publicly about it. Like, you know, I had a therapy
session for the first time and bawled my eyes out, and I would
talk about it. What's funny is the amount of men that have come
in my DMs and like, hey.  


 


Jared Hamilton  14:56  


I bet that's why I think that this episode, because I don't think
men talk about it enough and they are hurting just as much.


 


Jared Hamilton  15:11  


Yeah, 100%, 100%. Like, let's put it this way, the majority of my
following like, Instagram analytics is like 75-80% women, 95% of
our clientele are women. But I have never had more men reach out
because of this, so. So then I just went full bore therapy,
consistently, inner work, all the things. But then where it got
tied to coaching is where things really shifted because after
because, you know, then self-awareness grows and like emotional
regulation changes. And then what happened was, I started feeling
really heavy about what I did for a living, I started to feel
like, do I want to coach like, like questioning this stuff?
Because at the time, like, I'd already built my business, I had
started to scale, I hired employees, like we're growing. And now
I'm like, the thing I thought I wanted isn't what I wanted
anymore. And so one of the things an early mentor of mine taught
me is when you have lack of clarity, you need to go get quiet and
be by yourself for a while, and be undistracted. So now it's a
running thing I do I have quarterly what I call Jared
sabbaticals. To this day, I still do these where, about once a
quarter a couple times a year, I literally go get an Airbnb
somewhere by myself for several days and just so I can get my
brain time to breathe and process and all the things. So the one
I went on, though, so in Indiana, it's not hard to find a farm in
the middle of nowhere. I got an Airbnb on a farm in the middle of
nowhere with a little miniature horse. And so I went and had like
three or four days by myself. And I'm like, I'm talking about
like, barely cellphone reception. I like sitting by a fire for
three hours. Like that kind of stuff. Can't hear the road, can't
hear cars, just by myself because I was at the standstill. I'm
like, fuck, why don't I want this anymore? Why is this feeling
heavy, because at the time, I was just teaching what I would call
sustainable fat loss. It was just like, how you can lose weight,
working on a couple times a week, eating a doughnut and still
losing weight, right, that kind of stuff. But then I noticed a
pattern. This is the clarity that I started to get. I noticed a
pattern that I didn't market it but we had to do a lot of
groundwork with our clients with this deeper stuff before we
could send them to fat loss. So let's say Mrs. Jones would come
in, she's like, I'm ready to lose weight. We started losing
weight and I'm like oh fuck, she binge eats. Okay, I gotta stop
the binge eating, then she can get her gonna lose weight, would
do it, send her on her way. She's great. Then the next client
would come in and they'd be doing great. We go right into fat
loss stuff and like, oh, they're sabotaging because their
identity is fucked. Okay, I gotta fix this identity, got to
change a steak. I do all this stuff, then do all that and then
send them on its way and then he's successful. But then I'm like,
oh, this is everybody. And I wasn't but I wasn't (inaudible) I
wasn't talking about it. I was just doing it like in like
coaching because I like oh, I can't do the thing I know I need to
do, it's like move into a house and then you find out the
foundation's fuck, it's like, okay, I gotta fix this, then I can
finally do the other stuff.  


 


Jared Hamilton  15:47  


Totally. You are the analogy case, like the foundation one, I'm
always like, that is so good.  


 


Jared Hamilton  18:13  


So that's how I viewed it from my logical brain. So then I got to
thinking to myself, man, I need, I wish-wish there was a world
where you did both these things. Like I wish I could build a
program that I did both of this stuff like the inner world stuff,
the inner game and the outer game stuff. And I go but no one's
done it. No one's done it. So I'm like, no competition is dope.
What actually to be honest, gives me a lot of hope as we were
talking off camera about Kyle Cease, he's got he's a friend now.
As a mentor, he's changed a lot for me. Well, Kyle gave me
unconscious permission for this because Kyle do the same thing in
comedy. He built the most amazing stand up comedy career, and
then found out it's not what he wanted. He wanted to get in
transformation. He's like, I should just feel like I could do
both of these. Wait. And now he does like, both, like
transformational communications (inaudible).  


 


Amy Ledin  19:03  


Gave himself permission.


 


Jared Hamilton  19:04  


Yeah. And I go, Oh, maybe I could build this. So then I flipped
on my entrepreneurial brain and then I redid everything. Now,
mind you, as soon as I go okay, this is what I want to do. This
is where I feel aligned with emotionally, vibrationally all the
things. All the sabotage, all of the imposter syndrome came in.
It's like, who do you think you are? You're not a psychologist,
you stay in your own fucking lane then other people saying the
same thing. And I was like, but I just I feel like I'm supposed
to be here with this very specific lane. So I said fuck it and I
ran through it, redid all my contents about this stuff. I
rebranded the podcast to Dieting From The Inside Out. I redid our
entire coaching program and I marketed it like, yo, this is how
we process things we're going to do like we're going to diet you
from the inside out. First, fix all these things. Then we're
going to go into like actual like the fat loss and the
transformation and all the stuff. And so I went full bore with
all of it and haven't looked back since.  


 


Amy Ledin  20:00  


I love it. And I think I want to dive in a couple things there. I
think what I love about that, too is you already know that in the
person that's coming to you, the fact that they're willing to
pause the fat loss for a season just tells you they already have
the right mindset, even if it's been forced upon them, because
you're like, hey, I'm not letting you diet yet. Because, you
know, they want their plan. They're like, chomping at the bit,
because they think that's the answer when the reality is like,
this is the work that everyone needs to be doing. So talk me
through, give me one tactical thing because obviously, people
should come take your course and do it. But what's one tactical
thing you make every new client do?  


 


Jared Hamilton  20:36  


So in the world of the inner game, there's a lot, right? Like,
it's like, I use the and think of the inner game as like the term
vehicle. Well, there's a lot of categories underneath vehicles,
cars, trucks, motorcycles, SUVs, all the things, the inner game
is no different. One of the first things we do is identity work,
usually one of the first because everything sabotages to your
identity, your identity is what governs your unconscious actions,
which is 90% of most people. And then everything else sabotages
to it. Like we can talk about sabotaging mechanisms, like when
you're emotionally triggered, or whatever the case is, but most
people just align themselves and their actions with who they
think they are. So one of the first things we do is we do
identity work. And from a tactical standpoint, when people like
okay, well, fuck I've never, I don't I've never even heard
identity, until just now so what do I do to, what do I do to fix
it? So one of the first things that we do is there's a thing I
call the coma letter, it's a concept that I came up with, where,
because most people when they need to do the identity work,
they've never even heard of anything remotely close, and they're
not personal development junkies like you and I are so. So I play
out a scenario, I go, okay, I want you to picture this. I said,
you're going into brain surgery, something happened, you're going
into brain surgery, and the surgeon comes in and says, all right,
look Amy, I gotta go do some cool shit upstairs. But there's like
a 50/50 shot that I might hit the reset switch. There's like a I
have to take this, you know, this tumor out, whatever. But you
there's on paper a 50/50 chance, I will hit the reset switch and
you will have no recollection of who you are. When you wake up
you won't know who mom is, you won't know who dad is, you will
you'll be a complete blank slate. So write yourself a letter
telling yourself who you actually are. So I'll give you half
hour, he disappears. That's a fucking big reality check. But my
question is, what would you write because I can guarantee you
you're not going to write how much of a binger you are, you're
not gonna write how, how lack of confidence you are, you're not
going to talk about how you've always been a dieter and you
struggled your whole life, you're probably going to write the
most superhero story you've ever written. If it was me, I would
lie through my fucking teeth.  


 


Amy Ledin  22:37  


Yeah, I'm so great at this. This is what I'm doing.  


 


Jared Hamilton  22:39  


I would be like, I'm a billionaire. I just went through a tax
bankruptcy. So but I have all my assets still, like I would
literally write like, the most superhero-like scenario ever. But
that's who you are. That's like this reality that you are right
now is just just, it's a past, it's an artifact. So that's who
you actually are. But then the identity work is aligning your
actions and values with that until you have a stack of
irrefutable proof you are who you say you are.


 


Amy Ledin  23:07  


I love that. So how because you know, you are someone yesterday
and your stories, it was about staying ready. And you obviously
have done a lot of identity work on yourself. Teach a little bit
about the stay ready. Like why that's so important. Because, I
mean, you're a connector. I know you know so many people and I
really believe that a lot of people rise to the top because of
that they're truly trying to like, add value and but like you
said, you came from the homeschool child that was like, couldn't
talk. No one would know that. I mean, like, I'm shocked listening
to that because you're such a talker, you are like always on
like, I know, if I go to your stories, I'm gonna see you in the
video there's not like still shots, you're like talking. What did
you do to become this person? What is some of the identity
shifts? Like do you write? Did you write a letter to yourself? Do
you look at that often?  


 


Jared Hamilton  23:59  


Yeah, I mean, I've done a lot like all the inner game stuff, but
like I teach, to be honest, I haven't looked at it in a minute.
To be honest, it would probably be good to I think everyone needs
different phases of these letters. Because I think a lot of times
too many people, I think it depends on what it is. I think there
are some things that I need to go back and have reflective time.
But I think it's like, no, we need the next version of that. You
know what I mean? Where it's like what's, if we think of like
Netflix, like, what's the next season? Like you're looking to the
next thing? Well, what's the next version of you? What's the next
version of you? You know, like, when I thought I was 23 I thought
I was hot shit. Like, I thought I was like, I was getting into
business. It's like when I first started making a little bit of
money. I was like, fuck, let's roll like I'm killing it. But then
now if I had that reality of like a panic attack, or I'm like, I
sound like I'll see the Facebook time hops of like content I made
three years ago and it's terrible. Like, it's terrible.  


 


Amy Ledin  24:50  


Like, what did I do? (inaudible)  


 


Jared Hamilton  24:51  


Well, it's no different in leveling up yourself. So I'm gonna see
I think right now I'm like, the best things have been, from a
communication standpoint, from a these different levels of me, I
know, I'm gonna look back in three years, I'm like, what at a
fucking (inaudible), you know what I'm saying? So I think it's
important to go back and do these, these exercises of like your
identity, reinventing yourself, what? Excuse me? What are your
values and things like that? I think it's important to do that
frequently, or at least on an ongoing basis. So I think that's a
big piece of it.


 


Amy Ledin  25:20  


So when you say stay ready, what does that look like for you?
Because, you know, you're someone that I mean, I would say in our
because we're in a business coaching, you know, group together,
you're definitely one of the top dogs. And you are constantly I
mean, you put out so much content, you are always doing things.
How do you find like, the chutzpah or whatever people say, right
inside you to do this? Because obviously, it's not like people
go, oh, I'm just gifted with it. It's not, but I want you to


 


Jared Hamilton  25:49  


Yeah, so there's two sides with like, how do I have the oomph to
keep doing it? It's, I'm not where I want to be. At the end of
the day, I'm not where I want to be I know,  


 


Amy Ledin  25:58  


And you have clarity on (inaudible)


 


Jared Hamilton  25:58  


I have clarity on that. But then I also have more clarity on what
I have, what's gonna happen if I don't get it. One thing we teach
our clients is like, we need our help list. Like, what if you
don't do this, what's gonna happen? What's on paper get, it's
like, when my favorite analogies to use for it is going into
Christmas time. It's like the story of Scrooge, he didn't change
his actions until like, I think it was Ghost of Christmas Yet To
Come and says, look, motherfucker, this is what's going to happen
if you don't change. So I think about that.


 


Amy Ledin  26:23  


I like that, you know, that's so important to what's going to
happen if I don't do this.  


 


Jared Hamilton  26:27  


Truthfully, because I think when people are struggling or they
are in their low season of their life, I think like the happy
positive, what's your why, isn't strong enough.


 


Amy Ledin  26:35  


No, it isn't. And that's, I mean, even Tony Robbins talks about
that, like you make decisions based on pain or pleasure. And so
it's why sometimes the pain is going to pull me faster than the
pleasure because let's face it, I want a six-pack. But I mean,
not that much. You know what I mean? Like, we can sit in that
pleasure, but the pain is of going in my closet and nothing
fitting for my next you know, I mean, that would propel me more.


 


Jared Hamilton  26:57  


Totally, totally. So I think for me, it's like, it's just a
discipline thing. It's part of just who I am, it's from an
identity standpoint is I am consistent, I do the same things I
said I'm going to do, also my expectations are on point is I
know, I'm going to have to make more content than what I think
that I need to make, I'm going to not want to show up all the
things. So it's like with a weight loss client, they're going to
not be motivated. They're going it's going to take longer than
what they want. So I have that expectation. So I just it's part
of what I do. But then the stay ready stuff is I know this was
talking about my story yesterday that I just know these unicorn
moments and these opportunities. They're called unicorn moments
because they don't come around that often. But if you jump on
them, you are literally shortcutting all these different areas in
your life and I've been fortunate enough in the past. I had like
three yesterday to be honest, I like I talked about three mini
ones yesterday, but then like over the last year, I've had so
many opportunities jump at me because A, I'm in alignment with
them and then I, part of me believes I deserve them because of
the effort I put in because I do the things most people won't do.
So I feel like I deserve things that most people don't don't get.
But then the other side is I don't know when they're going to
come around. So I'm going to do my due diligence of working hard,
being consistent, doing all the things knowing what I want in
than just waiting for them. Not waiting, like sitting here
twiddling my thumbs but I


 


Jared Hamilton  26:57  


Right, you're still doing action while you're knowing
(inaudible).


 


Jared Hamilton  27:14  


Right. It's like a weight loss client like, no the weight's gonna
drop. No, the clothes are gonna fit but it's up to them to be
consistent. We just don't know when that day is gonna come.
Right? So that's how I view it. But a mentor of mine early on
said made that statement he said just stay ready. So you don't
have to get ready because getting ready. It's often too late. So
that so it's almost like in a weird way every day. I'm like, all
right, is today the day? Okay, no, that's fine.  


 


Amy Ledin  28:43  


I love that. And you know, on on my podcast, we talk a lot about
you got to put it out there because if you're not open to it,
it's like you saying you got to have clarity. It mean if you're
just saying you want to get in shape, it's just not clear enough
for your brain, right? It's the same with like coming to this I
went into it going okay, what am I expecting out of this? Okay,
I'm going to meet two people that are going to change my
business. I'm going to walk away with three things like really
specific so that my brain looks for it. It's like hey, where are
the two people I'm waiting? Where are they here at this event? So
I think you do a lot of that I kind of take notes because you
seem to be the connector.


 


Jared Hamilton  29:20  


Well, and the thing is to I think the other piece is I just know
you're one conversation, one moment, one piece of content away
from your life, never been the same like this, like last week, I
had because of one video that I made or one podcast episode I
made. I think like maybe eight months ago, someone reshared it in
someone else's Facebook group. That person has happened to be the
operations manager for one of the biggest calorie tracking apps
and she wants me to write a course for them and send their two to
three million monthly subscribers to me.  


 


Amy Ledin  29:52  


That's insane.  


 


Jared Hamilton  29:53  


Right? So like, which is dope but what if I didn't make that
piece of content? What if the way I wasn't present on that piece
of content about I think it was on binge eating didn't resonate
well, it wouldn't have gotten shared on the exact time she saw
it. So then when I saw the email come through, I scheduled a call
with her ASAP. Or that's just one example or whatever it may be
like.


 


Amy Ledin  30:15  


And you believe that you, I think people don't believe in nothing
themselves, like I am worthy of good things happening to me. And
I am expecting like when you said earlier, like I expect it. And
that is a huge, you know, opening yourself up to all of these
opportunities.


 


Jared Hamilton  30:30  


Well, and then I also realized, I'm not going to get the 10 out
of 10 on the first shot, like for example, let's say one of my
big goals is I want to close a stadium out. One of my big
speaking goals is I want to close out a stadium like  


 


Amy Ledin  30:43  


That's what I was gonna say, what's your big, crazy, hairy goal?
 


 


Jared Hamilton  30:45  


Kevin Hart level stadium close out, I saw one of Kevin Hart's,
one of his specials, like on Hulu or Netflix or whatever, he
literally closed down a 360 stadium. And it was like every seat
was full. I want to do that I want to close the stadium out. But
I know I'm not just gonna have an opportunity to close it close
the stadium out from right where I'm at now, but there but like
one of the things that happened yesterday, I got invited to the
event that we're out, I got invited to speak on a business panel
on it on Friday. So I said, absolutely. I have no idea what to
talk about. I have no idea what the thing is about. But is it in
the direction of the thing that I want? 1000% Because right now,
I'm telling you, I'm probably not ready to close out a stadium
yet. I would look like a babbling idiot. But I bet like in front
of 500 people, I will probably be okay.


 


Jared Hamilton  31:06  


Right. It was until you did coaching con, right? Last year. So
that was probably like, you're just slowly building your
(inaudible) gonna be at the stadium.  


 


Jared Hamilton  31:42  


Yeah. Well, and that's the thing is, I think, to me, people like,
yeah, you want to be clear on what you want. But also like, it's
going to take several dots being connected.  


 


Amy Ledin  31:50  


It's like with fat loss, okay, I want to lose 90 pounds. Well,
you're not going to be there for a while. But you got to lose the
five to lose the 10 to lose the 15. So I got to speak to five
people before I speak to 10. Before then I'm in front of an
audience, you know, so wow, I like that. What is, in your
business and now with all the people that you've worked with,
what do you think is the biggest mistake that females make, like
in you know, assuming what they need done versus what you think
is the number one thing that they need help with?


 


Jared Hamilton  32:21  


I think most people aren't ready for weight loss yet. I think
there's way too many foundational pieces that aren't there. I
think so many people, because of expectations, because of diet
culture, because of impatience, I think people are just too
willing to jump right into fat loss. But it's kind of like that
house thing. You just bought a house and you're ready to make
room additions. But every day the wall's cracking because the
foundation's fucked, that has to be fixed first. I think most
people, it's why the way that we coach people, it's why stage one
for us, we call it Dieting From The Inside Out is because most
people need some metabolic work. They've been eating 900 in total
calories a day, like that's not a foundation to lose fat from. So
we, from the inner side and the outer side, we need to make sure
metabolically you're in a good place. And from a habitual side,
you're in a good place. Because like at the end of the day, like
if you can't be consistent for more than 14 days, like it doesn't
matter what you do for those 14 days. But then the inner game
piece as well, because one of the questions we ask almost
everyone, when especially if someone's not bought in on the
dining from the inside out stuff, they're like, Okay, I get it,
but like, why can't I go into fat loss yet? My favorite question
that solves it every time it's like, oh, cool. If I could snap my
fingers and the 50 pounds disappears, is it staying off? It's a
yes or no question. And most people go, ah, probably not. I go
okay, well, why? They go well, I'd still be binge eating on the
weekends. But I'd still be emotionally eating in the pantry every
bad day. Well, then I know I'd subconsciously sabotage it because
every time I lose 10 pounds, and I jump on the scale, I binge eat
and I fall off and whatever. My relationship with food will still
be horrible. My metabolism would still be fucked. I'd have no
idea how to keep the weight off and they just go down the list. I
go okay, so if you just admitted magic genie powers does not get
your problem solved why are we white knuckling through weight
loss? It's illogical at this point. So then I rephrase I go well,
what if we flip that question? What if I said if I snap my
fingers and binge eating is gone, food relationship healed, your
inner game is on point, you're metabolically great, your habits
are great, you're consistent. You're disciplined. Do you think
weight loss would be that big of a deal? And they go I feel like
it would just happen. I go it would exactly just happen.  


 


Amy Ledin  34:21  


Yeah it'd be background for you, essentially, right?  


 


Jared Hamilton  34:24  


It's most people are putting the cart before the horse so to
speak. So that's that's the biggest piece is we have to make sure
foundationally you're in a good place. It's why like my entire IP
is all dieting from the inside out.


 


Amy Ledin  34:34  


Totally. So one, where can people find you and two, what is in
the future for you right now? Like what are you working on?


 


Jared Hamilton  34:43  


Yeah, so I hang out most days on Instagram, TikTok
@RealJaredHamilton. My podcast is Dieting From The Inside Out,
available everywhere. As far as what I'm excited on right now is
one, just keep scaling the business and just keep growing and
fine-tuning and helping. Really enjoying getting into speaking
like I want to do more at the podcast, doing a lot with it. And
just a lot bigger speaking things in the future, I just got
invited to speak for an event in 2025, another coaching event in
Vegas, which is pretty cool. And then it's getting close to the
stadium.


 


Amy Ledin  35:16  


I love when you have stuff like this recorded too, because you're
gonna look back on this and be like I because I remember Tom
Bilyeu, actually, he had, on one of his podcasts, that he was
going to be bigger than Disney. And he says it all the time,
right? And I'm like, I love when people are willing to put their
scary dreams because here's the thing, someone could be listening
right now that listens to you that has some connection with
someone they know that they're suddenly going to go, okay,
because you put that out there. I have a stadium that I want you
to, you know what I mean, I know an event that you could be
perfect for. And that is the only, and if people don't share
those things, it never comes out. What is a book, two books
actually, that you think everyone should read?


 


Jared Hamilton  35:54  


War of Art by Steven Pressfield. It's, I've been talking about it
a lot lately. The whole concept is that resistance is required.
 


 


Amy Ledin  36:01  


Good. I gotta read it. Because that's one on my list.  


 


Jared Hamilton  36:03  


It is one of my favorites. It's so good. The whole book is on the
resistance. When you, whenever you do anything new and noteworthy
or pursuing something greater than yourself, whatever it is, is,
the resistance isn't just going to happen but it is required to
get where you want to go. There's just no way around it. And then
one of my favorite books at all times. I always have a copy in my
bag to give to people who when I feel like it really would
resonate is As a Man Thinketh by James Allen.  


 


Amy Ledin  36:29  


Oh, that's two choices I was surprised. So these are yeah, I
thought you would do Joe Dispenza. I wondered (inaudible) I'm
sure it's on your list. Now these are two books I've not read.
These would be ones I want to  


 


Jared Hamilton  36:40  


I'm in the middle of Joe's book Breaking the Habit of Being
Yourself. Fantastic. Like humor. It's probably one of my top
five. But those were the first two that just were my first come
out was The War of Art. Not the Art of War. That's a different
book. But War of Art by Steven Pressfield. And As a Man Thinketh
by James Allen.  


 


Amy Ledin  36:58  


Awesome. Okay, well, I have really enjoyed this today (inaudible)
I think we need to do another one at some point where we can dive
into something else. Thank you for coming on. I appreciate it.


 


Jared Hamilton  37:08  


Of course. Thank you for having me.


 


Amy Ledin  37:09  


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