Episode 95: Mental Load Part 2: Conversations About Perfectionism, Gender Roles, And Finding Balance With Your Partner

Mental Load sucks. But are you accidentally making it even harder?
  We originally talked about Mental Load way back in episode
4, and in today’s episode, we’re going to zone in on two nuances
that can make or break your attempts to balance your partnership:
perfectionism and male Mental Load.   Do you have a specific
way that you like tasks to be done around the house? Maybe you find
yourself feeling frustrated at your partner because they never do
things the way you would do them. Or you get upset when they try to
“help” because they bombard you with so many questions that you end
up just doing it yourself? Perfectionism is hard enough to deal
with on its own, but when you combine it with Mental Load, it’s a
recipe for disaster and resentment.   Or maybe you’ve tried to
talk to your partner about your Mental Load, but now you find
yourselves in a competition about who is carrying more. You could
list all the things you do for the house, for him, for the kids,
but what would he have on his list? We asked the men in our
community to talk about their Mental Load, and some of their
answers may surprise you! (One answer was shocking enough that
you’ll get to hear first-hand how to navigate a Mental Load
conversation when your male partner carries a Load that’s invisible
to you.) Men may not always know how to put into words what they
carry, but the weight is still there, and it’s throwing off the
scales of your partnership.   Let us guide you through the
minefield of gender roles, socialization, and the burden of
perfectionism in this second edition of Mental Load. Grab your
partner or play it loud enough for them to hear it in the other
room, because this is the one episode your relationship can’t
afford to miss!   Links & Resources: Guide:  Mental
Load Workbook
(https://vmtherapy.thrivecart.com/mental-load-workbook/) 
Podcast Episode Callback:  Mental Load: What It Is and How to
Stop It from Destroying Your Relationship
(https://vmtherapy.com/episode4/)  Podcast Episode Callback:
 Fine, I’ll Just Do It Myself: The Danger of Weaponized
Incompetence (https://vmtherapy.com/episode35)    If you
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