Under The Sheets with Tatiana Ashborn and Friends

In this deeply emotional and brutally honest episode, Tatiana sits down with married couple Jacky & Eleanor to explore their five-year battle to start a family: three miscarriages, three rounds of IVF, DNA fragmentation, surgery, over £50k spent, and the miracle pregnancy that finally changed everything. From Jacky's past as a world-touring DJ fuelled by drugs, alcohol and afterparties, to the moment he realised he had to rebuild his entire life to become a father, this conversation goes far beyond fertility touching on love, addiction, shame, sex, resilience and staying together when everything keeps falling apart. Eleanor opens up about chemical pregnancies, being hospitalised from fertility medication, discovering PCOS and immune issues years into their journey, and the silent heartbreak of watching everyone else’s baby announcements while grieving her own losses. Together, they share how everything they endured inspired them to create Aloomah Fertility an online fertility community and podcast supporting both partners, especially men who are so often overlooked in infertility conversations. Key Points Video Includes -How Jacky touring DJ lifestyle, alcohol and ketamine use affected his health and fertility. -Eleanor’s journey discovering PCOS, immune issues and why these were missed for years. -How infertility pressure affected their sex life, intimacy and relationship dynamic. -The lifestyle changes, surgeries and tests that finally led to their successful pregnancy. -The financial and mental strain of paying privately for treatment after being denied NHS support. -The physical challenges of IVF, from hormone injections to egg retrieval and recovery. -How lockdown, lost income and moving back in with family shaped their fertility journey. -The importance of therapy, communication and teamwork through infertility stress. -Their hopes for the future of IVF, including better accessibility, early testing and equal support for all couples. Timestamps: 00:00:00 – Their five-year fertility struggle: miscarriages, IVF & £50k spent 00:06:05 – Jacky's DJ life: Apple Store to signing a record deal and touring the world 00:09:10 – Life as a touring DJ: drugs, alcohol, burnout & relationship strain 00:14:37 – Wedding day: heatwave chaos, rave-style reception & deejaying his own wedding 00:18:00 – Deciding to start a family and realising something wasn’t right 00:25:23 – Drugs, ketamine addiction & how DJ culture normalised everything 00:29:20 – First IVF success that ended in a chemical pregnancy 00:32:41 – Diagnosis: high natural killer cells and finally discovering PCOS 00:39:11 – The IVF round that finally worked and early pregnancy anxiety 00:42:35 – How trying-to-conceive cycles can dominate your whole life 00:50:45 – Creating Aloomah, their fertility support community and podcast 00:58:44 – What they hope changes in IVF: accessibility, postcode lottery & NHS rules 01:08:35 – Are they ready for parenthood & what scares them most 01:11:32 – Gifts, gratitude & emotional closing with Tatiana You may find some of these issues troubling. Viewer discretion advised. Please visit our website: www.dirtytalkofficial.com for finding information and resources. We love you and you are needed.

Came out at 32. Thought he’d wasted 12 years. Now he runs Attitude Magazine and Rolling Stone UK - and has Elton John on speed dial. In this episode I sit down with Darren Styles OBE, who talks openly about the years he spent hiding who he was before finally stepping into himself. We discuss the twelve-year journey it took to convince Elton John to do a feature, the wild and chaotic reality behind some magazine shoot VPLs (visible penis lines), and the real work and honesty that marriage can demand. This is a conversation about identity, courage, pride, and loving yourself enough to become who you were always meant to be. Believe in yourself, always.

This week I’m joined by the incredible singer Deina for a conversation that flows from star signs and energies (including why my Capricorn self and my Leo boyfriend might not be the most compatible ), to the unfiltered truths of a girls’ group chat, and the creative process behind her EP and upcoming album. Deina also takes us behind her lyrics - unpacking the stories, emotions, and moments that shaped her music. It’s equal parts astrology tea & music inspo! You can find her on: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iam_deina/?hl=en Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/5mEd0VyoKSSF558EDzNXCc

What do you do when you hit 42, walk away from a 20-year marriage, and suddenly find yourself back on Hinge wondering what on earth “vibes” and “icks” are? If you’re Ellie McKay, you reinvent yourself completely and the old version of you would probably be horrified. In this episode, Ellie spills the tea on everything: from millionaire to homeless, telling her kids about the divorce, dating in midlife, why so many people settle for mediocre (and why she refuses to), and the wild ride of falling in love with her boss. We dive into sex parties, postnatal depression, self-development, and the chaos of working with your mum (spoiler: don’t do it). Ellie is hilarious, brutally honest, and refreshingly real. This conversation will make you laugh, maybe blush, and definitely think twice about where you’re playing it safe in your own life. Swipe right on this episode - you won’t regret it.