We Lost Everything Trying to Have a Baby | How IVF, Healing & Hard Truths Saved Us - Jacky & Eleanor

In this deeply emotional and brutally honest episode, Tatiana
sits down with married couple Jacky & Eleanor to explore
their five-year battle to start a family: three miscarriages,
three rounds of IVF, DNA fragmentation, surgery, over £50k spent,
and the miracle pregnancy that finally changed everything. From
Jacky's past as a world-touring DJ fuelled by drugs, alcohol and
afterparties, to the moment he realised he had to rebuild his
entire life to become a father, this conversation goes far beyond
fertility touching on love, addiction, shame, sex, resilience and
staying together when everything keeps falling apart. Eleanor
opens up about chemical pregnancies, being hospitalised from
fertility medication, discovering PCOS and immune issues years
into their journey, and the silent heartbreak of watching
everyone else’s baby announcements while grieving her own losses.
Together, they share how everything they endured inspired them to
create Aloomah Fertility an online fertility community and
podcast supporting both partners, especially men who are so often
overlooked in infertility conversations. Key Points Video
Includes -How Jacky touring DJ lifestyle, alcohol and ketamine
use affected his health and fertility. -Eleanor’s journey
discovering PCOS, immune issues and why these were missed for
years. -How infertility pressure affected their sex life,
intimacy and relationship dynamic. -The lifestyle changes,
surgeries and tests that finally led to their successful
pregnancy. -The financial and mental strain of paying privately
for treatment after being denied NHS support. -The physical
challenges of IVF, from hormone injections to egg retrieval and
recovery. -How lockdown, lost income and moving back in with
family shaped their fertility journey. -The importance of
therapy, communication and teamwork through infertility stress.
-Their hopes for the future of IVF, including better
accessibility, early testing and equal support for all couples.
Timestamps: 00:00:00 – Their five-year fertility struggle:
miscarriages, IVF & £50k spent 00:06:05 – Jacky's DJ life:
Apple Store to signing a record deal and touring the world
00:09:10 – Life as a touring DJ: drugs, alcohol, burnout &
relationship strain 00:14:37 – Wedding day: heatwave chaos,
rave-style reception & deejaying his own wedding 00:18:00 –
Deciding to start a family and realising something wasn’t right
00:25:23 – Drugs, ketamine addiction & how DJ culture
normalised everything 00:29:20 – First IVF success that ended in
a chemical pregnancy 00:32:41 – Diagnosis: high natural killer
cells and finally discovering PCOS 00:39:11 – The IVF round that
finally worked and early pregnancy anxiety 00:42:35 – How
trying-to-conceive cycles can dominate your whole life 00:50:45 –
Creating Aloomah, their fertility support community and podcast
00:58:44 – What they hope changes in IVF: accessibility, postcode
lottery & NHS rules 01:08:35 – Are they ready for parenthood
& what scares them most 01:11:32 – Gifts, gratitude &
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