You Don't Owe Struggle Your Loyalty

When we talk about loyalty, most of us think about relationships,
family, or friendships. But there’s another kind of loyalty we
don’t talk about enough — our loyalty to struggle.


As Black women, we’ve been taught that struggle is part of who we
are. That staying in relationships, jobs, or communities that
drain us somehow proves our strength. That choosing ease means
we’re abandoning our people, our roots, or our role as the
“strong one.”


Choosinng suppot is not about abandoning your people or being
selfish. It’s about telling the truth: you don’t owe struggle
your loyalty and staying in struggle is costing you more than
leaving ever will. 
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Shirl is the creator of Support Languages and host of Shades of
Strong — a movement shifting the narrative from Strong Black
Woman to Supported Black Woman through language, rest, and real
support.