Finding Support in the Pause

Sometimes the support we need doesn’t come with a loud arrival or
a clear answer. Sometimes, it shows up in the in-between. The
pause. The waiting. The quiet moments where nothing feels certain
— but you’re still held.


In today’s reflection, we explore what support can look like when
you don’t have the words yet. When things feel unclear. When
you’re sitting in the fog, trying not to force clarity. This is
about honoring the space between prayers and answers, effort and
outcome. The pause is not a void. It’s a form of support too.


Whether you’re resting, questioning, or just catching your
breath, you’re not alone in that pause. This episode holds space
for the Black woman who’s doing her best to trust what she can’t
yet see — and still deserves to be supported right now.


Listen in and share this with someone who needs to know
she doesn’t have to be “on” all the time to be worthy of
support.
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Shirl is the creator of Support Languages and host of Shades
of Strong — a movement shifting the narrative from Strong
Black Woman to Supported Black Woman through language, rest,
and real support.