When "Support" is Present But You Still Feel Alone

So earlier this week I talked about what it feels like when you
don’t have anybody to reach for. But what about when folks are
around — and you still feel alone? That’s a whole different kind
of grief.


This episode is about that space. The space where people love
you, but they don’t really see you. Where the help is supposed to
be there… but somehow, you’re still carrying it all.


If you’ve ever looked around and thought, “Why does no one notice
how much I’m holding?” — this one’s for you.


What You’ll Hear in This Episode:


What Being Seen feels like when it’s missing

How to stop swallowing that quiet grief

Real talk about what support really requires

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Shirl is the creator of Support Languages and host of Shades
of Strong — a movement shifting the narrative from Strong
Black Woman to Supported Black Woman through language, rest,
and real support.