Things I Stopped Apologizing For as a Lupus Warrior... Why I No Longer Shrink Myself for Anyone. (Bonus Episode 4)

If you’ve ever felt like you had to apologize for needing more
rest, canceling plans, or just doing what’s best for you—this
episode is for you.


As a lupus warrior, I’ve had to unlearn a whole lot of guilt. I
used to feel bad for needing rest, for dreaming big, and even for
protecting my peace. But I’ve reached a point in my journey where
I just can’t keep shrinking myself to make others comfortable.


In today’s episode of Chronically
Planned, I’m sharing the
real-life things I stopped apologizing for—not
because I have it all together, but because I finally realized I
don’t have to explain my survival.


Whether you’re newly diagnosed or deep in your healing journey,
this episode is a reminder that:


You’re allowed to need rest.
You’re allowed to protect your peace.
You’re allowed to want more—even with chronic illness.





What I’m talking about today:
Why rest is a life-giving rhythm, not laziness
Saying “no” and meaning it—without guilt or explaining
Letting go of the shame around flare days and changing
plans
Embracing joy as a part of healing, not something extra
The moment I stopped shrinking my goals because of lupus
Giving yourself permission to show up imperfect, unapologetic,
and still worthy





Timestamps:
00:00 — Embracing Self-Care as a Lupus Warrior
06:41 — Prioritizing Joy and Dreaming Bigger


Takeaways:




I stopped apologizing for needing rest.




I no longer over-explain my boundaries.




Choosing peace is a non-negotiable.




Joy is not a distraction—it’s medicine.




I’m done shrinking my vision to fit other people’s comfort.




You can live with lupus and still build a life you love.







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