100: My Real Rock Bottom—Years After I Got Sober | And How Obsession with Perfection Nearly Ruined My Recovery

We often think of a rock bottom story as the moment someone
relapses, destroys their marriage, or hits crisis during active
addiction. But what if rock bottom doesn’t come at the start of
recovery? What if it shows up years after sobriety, long after
you’ve quit porn?


In this raw and deeply personal episode, I share the story of my
real rock bottom—a collapse that came after I had overcome porn,
but before I had truly healed.


This isn’t just about addiction. It’s about how perfectionism,
spiritual bypassing, emotional suppression, and the need for
control nearly ruined my life—even while I was “doing everything
right.”


Whether you’re just beginning your porn addiction recovery
journey or have years of sobriety behind you, this episode will
speak to the deeper layers of healing:


How I became addicted to productivity, spiritual performance,
and “doing recovery perfectly”

Why emotional sobriety matters just as much as behavioral
sobriety

How Internal Family Systems (IFS) helped me see that the
voice I thought was the Spirit was actually a perfectionist
protector part of my mind

The danger of confusing God’s will with your own fear

The moment I realized I had built my identity on shame, not
truth

How I began healing my marriage, my mental health, and my
relationship with God

What I learned about accountability, ownership, and the power
of being real



You’ll also hear about how my first attempt at building a
recovery business failed, what I learned from hitting emotional
and spiritual bottom, and how my understanding of faith and
addiction recovery had to radically change in order for me to
grow.


This is for the man who’s done the surface-level work… but still
feels stuck.


It’s for the guy who feels anxious, isolated, or ashamed even
years into recovery.


It’s for anyone ready to stop running, get honest, and choose
growth.


If you’ve ever wondered how to overcome shame, reclaim your
agency, and pursue real healing from addiction—this conversation
will meet you right where you are.


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