How to Find, Build & Maintain Healthy Romantic Relationships | Esther Perel

In this episode, my guest is Esther Perel, a world-renowned
psychotherapist, relationship expert, and bestselling author. She
explains healthy romantic relationship dynamics and how to achieve
them. The answer includes curiosity not just about the other person
but, more importantly, about who we can evolve into through healthy
relating. Esther explains the fundamental differences and
challenges in relationships formed at different stages of life. We
also discuss relationship conflict and how to give and receive a
true apology. Additionally, we discuss fidelity, breaches of trust,
reviving relationships, and tools for understanding your needs
regarding love and desire in a relationship. The episode will help
listeners understand the key elements to find, build, and revive
deeply satisfying romantic relationships. Access the full show
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https://functionhealth.com/huberman Timestamps 00:00:00 Esther
Perel 00:02:03 Sponsors: David Protein, LMNT & Helix Sleep
00:06:33 Romantic Relationships, Change & Self 00:11:18
Cornerstone vs. Capstone Relationships, Age Differences 00:16:53
Young vs. Older Couples, Dynamic Relationships 00:20:13 Identity
& Relationship Evolution 00:26:00 Curiosity, Reactivity
00:30:29 Sponsor: AG1 00:31:59 Polarization, Conflict; Coherence
& Narratives 00:38:21 Apologies, Forgiveness, Shame,
Self-Esteem 00:45:00 Relationship Conflict 00:53:48 Sponsor:
Function 00:55:35 Verb States of Conflict; Emotion, Narratives vs.
Reality 01:00:10 Time Domains & Hurt; Caretaker & Romantic
Relationships 01:08:03 Couples Therapy; Language & Naming
01:20:15 Sexuality in Relationships 01:26:20 Tool: Love &
Desire, Sexuality 01:31:28 Infidelity, “Aliveness” 01:35:17
Intimacy, Abandonment, Self-Preservation 01:41:26 Erotic
Blueprints, Emotional Needs 01:49:42 Tool: Repair Work,
Relationship Revival; Sincere Apologies 01:59:30 Tool: Relationship
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