How Relationships Shape Your Brain | Dr. Allan Schore

In this episode, my guest is Dr. Allan Schore, Ph.D., a faculty
member in the department of psychiatry and behavioral sciences at
the University of California, Los Angeles, a longtime clinical
psychotherapist, and a multi-book author. We discuss how early
child-parent interactions shape brain circuitry, impacting our
ability to form attachments, manage emotions, and navigate conflict
and stress. We cover how the development of right-brain circuitry
related to emotional processing and the unconscious mind regulates
physiological responses, influencing adult friendships and romantic
relationships. We also explore how improving your ability to listen
to the emotional tone—rather than just the meaning—of words is a
vital skill for fostering better relationships with yourself and
others, and how it plays a role in reshaping brain circuitry.
Additionally, we explain how circuits in the right brain hemisphere
drive creativity and intuition and discuss activities to access the
unconscious mind. This episode delves into how the unconscious mind
regulates emotions—both your own and others’—and shapes our sense
of self. By the end, you’ll have new knowledge and tools to build
more secure, meaningful, and impactful connections of all kinds:
professional, romantic, familial, friendships, and beyond. Access
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https://functionhealth.com/huberman Timestamps 00:00:00 Dr. Allan
Schore 00:02:37 Sponsors: David & Eight Sleep 00:05:49 Thoughts
& Unconscious Mind 00:07:36 Right vs Left Brain, Child
Development, Attachment 00:13:19 Attachment Styles &
Development, Emotions & Physiology 00:18:12 Intuition, Arousal,
Emotional Regulation & Attachment 00:23:13 Psychobiological
Attunement, Repair; Insecure & Anxious Attachment 00:28:33
Attachment Styles, Regulation Theory; Therapy 00:34:20 Sponsor: AG1
00:35:51 “Surrender,” Therapy, Patient Synchronization 00:39:46
Synchrony, Empathy, Therapy & Developing Autoregulation
00:45:07 Mother vs Father, Child Development; Single Caretakers
00:50:51 MDMA, Right Brain; Fetal Development 00:55:58 Sponsor:
Function 00:57:46 Integrating Positive & Negative Emotions,
Quiet vs Excited Love 01:03:33 Splitting, Borderline; Therapy &
Emotions 01:09:24 Tool: Right Brain, Vulnerability & Repair
01:15:32 Right vs. Left Brain, Attention 01:19:26 Right Brain
Synchronization, Eye Connection, Empathy 01:25:39 Music & Dogs,
Resonance 01:30:58 Right Brain & Body; Empathic Connection,
Body Language 01:36:47 Tool: Text Message, Communication,
Relationships 01:42:18 Right Brain Dominance & Activities;
Tool: Fostering the Right Brain 01:50:10 Defenses, Blind Spots
01:53:14 Creativity, Accessing the Right Brain, Insight 01:59:31
Paternal Leave, Parent-Child Relationships, Attachment 02:05:16
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